08-07-2009, 08:05 PM
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iFo 4 LIFE!
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Am I a bad guy????????????????
So anyway I have this friend who when I was homeless back in the mid-nities, would let me sleep on his couch and he and his then gf would feed me and hang around. I eventually got back on my feet and things were fine.
So years later he calls all distraught, as he has the mom from hell (she would make Marie on "Raymond" look docile), who he doesn't stand up too and his new g/f had enough and left when he wouldn't confront the mom on her interference. He called me as mentioning suicide, which having been through that I took seriously, my wife and I invited to stay at my house for the weekend and at the end of the because he seemed somewhat better, so that crisis passed. Ok, so about two years ago he calls me stating his car got booted and when he went down to pay the fine only to find out his parents had bought cars under his name and recieved tickets and never paid them, as the cars were in his name he is responsible (it was in the thousands), well I ask so why don't you confront them or explain to IDOT, well he couldn't as he says he never finished high school (I did not know that), and his mom was holding that over his head as she would tell his employer and he would be fired), so I lend him about $500 or so to get a car someone in his neighborhood was selling. So, ok not a big amount and he would pay me back when he could, BUT again he calls, seems his roomate has just told him he is moving out that week and now my friend has to look for another roommate, but the rent is due and doesn't have enough to cover his half and that of his ex-roommate, again, he's talkin' that "S" word again so after much talk with the wife we lend him about $550.00. Again he promises to pay back the loans. OK I still felt beholden to him due to when he helped me when I needed it. So he gets a new roommate and things are quiet, and I hadn't heard from him, so I call and see how he is doing, well now his new car isn't working so well and they cut his hours at work so he needed the car to get to work and didn't have the money for the repairs, yep I offer to help as in my mind without a job we won't see any money so he gets $1,000.00. He says he will pay with his tax refund he will be getting that Spring. So Spring comes and goes, we do get $300.00 via Paypal, then no word and so in June I e-mail him to see what's up, well he had more car issues but promised he would start paying in August. At this point In had lost my job at Chase and had another part time job at less money, and was dipping into my inheritance to pay for some medical bills due to my wife's illness, dental work and the mortgage. So now it's August and no word fvrfo my friend,,BUT I see on FaceBook, he'll be at Chicago Comic Con, and he is a big Punisher, Star Wars and things like that. So my wife writes him this on a PM via FB: Quote:
We are going Sunday only because we get guest passes due to INTER-FAN. Heck, I don't have dough to get to comics I want to publish and are ready to go but can't get them printed. Advise??
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08-07-2009, 08:15 PM
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Your wife is a better woman than me. I don't know that I would have the restraint that your wife showed in that fb post. I fear that I'd leave CCC in handcuffs.
 I would confront him, for sure. What's the worst that could happen? He STILL doesn't pay you back? |
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08-07-2009, 08:15 PM
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Canadian SNL, eh.
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You're being used, cut him loose.
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08-07-2009, 08:20 PM
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I don't think you are wrong for this. You are entitled to the money. However, short of legal action, you may not ever get it. You can keep trying but you may just have to write it, and him, off.
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08-07-2009, 08:30 PM
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yeah i would be pissed. i have had friends do big favors for me and i always took repaying them as an absolute top priority. i would expect them to do the same. i know some of my "friends" do not feel the same, and i can only consider them acquaintances really, because real friends would not abuse their friendship status. i would loan a really good friend money, and i wouldn't expect it back right away, but if they were out spending all kinds of money on themselves and not paying me i would be pissed
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08-07-2009, 09:51 PM
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You could tell him you wish him luck ,
But you cant afford to help him anymore. See what happens then. |
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08-07-2009, 09:59 PM
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It's not all but you did get some money back.So at least it dont look like he's using you.
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08-07-2009, 10:14 PM
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mind-bottling
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sure, it would be nice to get the money back, but maybe with less stress, you can move on?
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08-07-2009, 10:25 PM
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Anger is an Energy
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Old Hungarian saying
”Never lend money you ever expect to see again”
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08-07-2009, 10:34 PM
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If there's two things I've learned from watching too much Judge Judy it's never lend money to another person and never get involved with a cell phone for another person. I swear, between the two it makes up 75% of the cases on the show.
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08-07-2009, 10:50 PM
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08-07-2009, 10:56 PM
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You want me to send WhiteRose 'round ?
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08-07-2009, 11:10 PM
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The worst , positive way to kill a friendship is to let friends borrow money. Everytime I see it on CBR , or off-line the situation always ends up bad. And the friends never stay friends for long.
I'd see if he pays ...before cutting him loose. And the way ya talk its been years. Wow....
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08-07-2009, 11:33 PM
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Bottom Line, Abby!
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It's one thing to extend help when you can afford it. But you should not get into the mind-set that because he helped you at one time you needed it that you are obligated every time he says he needs it.
If he gets into financial problems because he can't stand up for himself to his parent (and what kind of parents are those?), you should NOT feel obligated to rescue him. And to ask for repayment of a debt he agreed to pay -- especially when YOU NEED THE MONEY, that does NOT make you a "bad guy". Hope things turn out well for you!
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08-08-2009, 02:20 AM
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He's playing you.
It looks to me like he's COUNTING on you to be too conflicted to confront him. If this is the case then he WILL throw the fact that he once helped you in his face when you get him cornered. |
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