RITA'S CXLVI: What's a Sweetheart Like You Doin' in a Dump Like This?

[Winslow]

I read to my kids before bed until they were teens. It's a great way to bond and fosters a love for reading. One of the things I did right as a parent.

[Puma]

oh yay, Rupert just puked all over the dining room.

[Jeff Brady]

Giving parental advice is always tricky, and sometimes unwelcome. Having said that, if you've ruled out a medical reason that he's not sleeping well, then I recommend:

(1) Establishing a routine (going to bed at the same time every night, maybe a bath and then reading)
(2) Getting him his own crib and room
(3) Letting him cry

Absent a medical condition, he really should be sleeping at least 6 hours at this point.

It's never unwelcome.

He just had the second part of his flu shot. Every time he sees the doctor, his routine is thrown off for weeks. She did have a few ideas, but it's going to be some time before we can fully implement them.

1) We have a routine, but he consistently ignores it.
2) His own room will happen in February.
3) There's far too much evidence about how this alters brain chemistry and would set him up for diminished learning capabilities and depression. Given that my wife & I both have issues with the latter, we are trying to avoid this as much as possible.

[bipolar danger girl]

Fuckers! Today I am thankful for SuperE. Happy 10 year anniversary, asshole.

[JDogindy]

God fucking damnit.

One of my former clients took too many drugged and jumped of a roof.

He was always completely messed up, but I liked the kid and I was one of the few people he ever listened to.

Oh, shit. Really sorry to hear about that.

[Puma]

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wheeeeeee

fraud, puke, storm

a trifecta!

[Winslow]

It's never unwelcome.

He just had the second part of his flu shot. Every time he sees the doctor, his routine is thrown off for weeks. She did have a few ideas, but it's going to be some time before we can fully implement them.

1) We have a routine, but he consistently ignores it.
2) His own room will happen in February.
3) There's far too much evidence about how this alters brain chemistry and would set him up for diminished learning capabilities and depression. Given that my wife & I both have issues with the latter, we are trying to avoid this as much as possible.

For 1) you have to really stick to it, and eventually he'll catch on. It usually helps if you make it fun. Reading Go Dogs Go! every night for a month was a pain in the ass, but it's what my son wanted as a toddler.

You can't really do 3) without 2). Letting a child cry while in their presence would suck.

But I am a little skeptical about the studies that say letting a child cry themselves to sleep is setting them up for learning disabilities and depression. I am more inclined to believe that the subset of parents that neglect their children later as well as let them cry as infants may be the same. Nevertheless, making sacrifices for your kid based on information available is rarely a bad thing. So kudos to you.

[Athena Bast]

oh yay, Rupert just puked all over the dining room.

I've started to have to fight the cats for use of the toilet. The last couple days have involved me removing them at least 3 times from it before they let me use it.

[Puma]

You want to know what brightens a bad day? even for only a moment or two? going to a site (recommended by Das) and seeing this:

[thehod]

For 1) you have to really stick to it, and eventually he'll catch on. It usually helps if you make it fun. Reading Go Dogs Go! every night for a month was a pain in the ass, but it's what my son wanted as a toddler.

You can't really do 3) without 2). Letting a child cry while in their presence would suck.

But I am a little skeptical about the studies that say letting a child cry themselves to sleep is setting them up for learning disabilities and depression. I am more inclined to believe that the subset of parents that neglect their children later as well as let them cry as infants may be the same. Nevertheless, making sacrifices for your kid based on information available is rarely a bad thing. So kudos to you.

Letting a child cry whilst in the same room as them is clearly not on, so yes, letting them cry has to wait until they're in their own room.

I think also you need time to learn your childs cries.

We let the little one cry herself out some nights because we can tell her cry is one of anger. Its a "I want you now. Where are you? Why aren't you coming?" cry. After about 15 minutes she kind of gets the point that we're not coming and she usually goes off to sleep. If she doesn't, we'll go in, reassure her, tell its sleep time and leave. Cue another spell of crying, but she'll get the point eventually.

You can tell when her cry is one of pain or discomfort though, and you have to deal with those, and they can sometimes be all nighters.

[SUPERECWFAN1]

Giving parental advice is always tricky, and sometimes unwelcome. Having said that, if you've ruled out a medical reason that he's not sleeping well, then I recommend:

(1) Establishing a routine (going to bed at the same time every night, maybe a bath and then reading)
(2) Getting him his own crib and room
(3) Letting him cry

Absent a medical condition, he really should be sleeping at least 6 hours at this point.

Letting a child cry whilst in the same room as them is clearly not on, so yes, letting them cry has to wait until they're in their own room.

I think also you need time to learn your childs cries.

We let the little one cry herself out some nights because we can tell her cry is one of anger. Its a "I want you now. Where are you? Why aren't you coming?" cry. After about 15 minutes she kind of gets the point that we're not coming and she usually goes off to sleep. If she doesn't, we'll go in, reassure her, tell its sleep time and leave. Cue another spell of crying, but she'll get the point eventually.

You can tell when her cry is one of pain or discomfort though, and you have to deal with those, and they can sometimes be all nighters.

My friend would do this with his child actually. Because as he said , we can know when she's in pain and needs comforted and we can tell when its just...I WANT ATTENTION NOW crying. He was babysitting for a friend and the girl he sit down to play with her toys on the floor. Well she gets angry because he's not holding her and he waits as a minute or 2 passes and finally she stopped crying. Then went back to playing on the floor like babies do.

Fuckers! Today I am thankful for SuperE. Happy 10 year anniversary, asshole.

Thank you..and even using my Swedish Chef avator too....(wipes tear)

[Puma]

I really trying to not be a whiner but it seems to be my 24 hours...

Martha- best lady, kindest volunteer, and all around wonderful person I had the privilege to know and work with, passed away on Thanksgiving at the age of 87. RIP

[Tadhg]

I keep seeing the thread title as "The use of real Robots" and I keep wanting to reply with "Enslave humanity and Vacuum floors."

[Dizzy D]

Fuckers! Today I am thankful for SuperE. Happy 10 year anniversary, asshole.

I'm really only looking at avatars these days. Took me about a minute to figure out why SuperE was talking about himself.

[the4thpip]

That's horrible. Are you OK?

Hands stopped shaing a while ago. Gonna try and focus on the big job interview tomorrow.