Okay. This is going to be fun.
As a proviso to Siriel, I am going to do my level best to remain at least somewhat civil here. If I go to far, feel free to tell me to shut up and consider it dropped.
I mean, I know you have problems understanding Naruto but I would have thought a simple sentiment like that would have been easy for you to grasp.
Equating someone's loved one being killed instantly on the other side of the world to someone literally dying in your arms to protect you.And Shikamaru just had Shikaku, his father, and Inoichi, a man he's known his entire life and who could be seen as an uncle to him, blown the fuck up. And what did he do? He realized he was a battle and manned the fuck up on his own. He saw that now was not the time to allow his emotions get the better of him, that he had to put those aside until after the giant world-ending threat is taken care of and THEN he can mourn his losses.
We'll get into this more below...
You're also casually omitting the fact that Obito specifically targeted Naruto to tear down his psychological defences. Naruto previously, running hot from just essentially ending the war and saving the lives of basically everyone and Jinchuuriki all by himself, had said; "I'm not going to let you kill my friends," And he meant it. He also had the power to back it up.Same for Hinata, who had just lost her cousin, someone she's known and loved her entire life, yet managed to keep herself together and not break down emotionally. She, like Naruto, watched Neji die in front of her, stabbed with giant wooden stakes as he protected her, and she didn't fall apart. She kept herself together watching someone who was a brother to her die and kept together because she knew she was in a battle and now wasn't the time.
Naruto, however, broke down on the spot. Again. Just like every other time he's been hit with difficult news. And he wants to be Hokage. He wants to be the leader everyone looks to for strength, and he breaks down every time something goes wrong.
But unlike the previous times, he did it during a massive battle where the lives of not only his future soldiers, but the lives of everyone in their world is on the line. He wants to be the leader of a military organization and he can't handle the fact that people, even those close to him, are going to die and breaks down when it happens, even when he's in the middle of a battle.
Obito uses this against him and throws his failure in his face. Naruto is now confronted by the fact that even with all his ridiculous power, even with Kurama 100% in sync with him and even with all his friends and allies working in conjunction, it still wasn't enough and still people are dying and Neji died, specifically to protect him.
No one else has that level of power or that level of assumed responsibility in this war. It's real for everyone, sure. But they have all accepted that people are going to die in this fight because they know they are facing powers far beyond their own. Conversely, Naruto is arguably the third most powerful being on the entire planet behind the Jyuubi itself, Madara and Hashirama and, for all his power, he still failed.
That is a big psychological blow to Naruto. It is a blow bigger to him than it would have been to anyone else. Shikamaru lost his father, Ino lost her father. Sure, that's tragic but what could they have done to prevent it? They are faced with Immortal Zombie Ninja Jesus, an extremely powerful Ninja Terrorist who is personally responsible for this entire war, their village being destroyed and the murder of one of the greatest ninjas of their time and an eldritch super kaiju who can nuke entire cities from across continents. They have no sense of personal responsibility because they know they are way out of their league with these guys.
Naruto is in their league. He is the last, best and only hope for the ninja alliance. He is the son of the Fourth Hokage and the Jinchuuriki of the second most powerful Bijuu. As stated earlier, the number of people more powerful than him right now can be counted on one hand. He has done amazing things recently and become more powerful than he thought possible and, despite that, still he was unable to stop his friend from having to die to protect him. For all his power, he is still lacking the power to make good on his promises.
That is a big hit to him, especially considering how much weight Naruto puts into his promises.
Yes, Hinata lost her cousin/brother figure. But, she didn't promise to save everyone and actually meant it, she knew she didn't have a chance of doing that. Heck, when Neji died she was doing the exact same thing; trying to protect Naruto. She was doing the only thing she could do in that situation - throwing her life away to protect the last hope of the world. It's sad for her but she feels exactly the same way as Neji did because she was doing the exact same thing as him.
I know you apparently live in "Amazing Dog Land," where heroes are perfect paragons of virtue and determination who never fail and never, not even for one second, doubt themselves but guess what? Kishimoto is actually examining deeper emotional themes than; "OOOOAAA IMMA SMASH THE BAD GUY!" and Naruto is going to doubt himself as he grows as a person. Sure, it's not an optimal time for it but, amazingly, in the middle of highly stressful situation (like a war for example) were incredibly tragic things happen (say, witnessing the death of a close friend as he dies to protect you) that's going to make emotions happen.
In short, to paraphrase Uncle Ben; with great power comes great responsibility and that responsibility isn't a easy burden to bear.
Do you understand what I am saying here?
It's how I read it and this discussion is all about interpretation.And you're putting words in my mouth. I never said anything remotely like that. I said he required Hinata to slap some sense into him because she was the one who did it. If Shikamaru had been the one to slap him, the I'd have said "and required Shikamaru to slap some sense into him". But I didn't, because it wasn't Shikamaru. Or Rock Lee. Or Ino. Or Sakura. Or anyone else. It was Hinata who did it. Thus I said he required Hinata to snap him out of it.
In fairness, maybe the jab at your gender politics was little close to the bone but, eh, I don't like you very much.
This just shows the immaturity of your reading of this manga.Physically? No. Physically he's strong, even if we never get a chance to see him handle a battle without needing to be rescued at least once by someone else.
Psychologically? Oh Hell yes. He's got the emotional strength of a house of cards, and he's supposed to be our hero. He's supposed to be the one the other heroes rally behind and see as a pillar of strength, yet it seems every time he gets faced with a difficult situation, he crumbles.
According to you; if someone has doubts for entirely valid reasons given the relative stress and emotional pain inherent in the situation, then they are weak and not worthy to be a hero.
But then, I can see your point; why on earth would you want a three dimensional character who has doubts, who is flawed and who isn't perfect when you could have Johnny McSelf-Belief who powers through and saves the day regardless of any loss on the way?
In short, I strongly advise to try and be more mature in your reading of the manga. You're coming across as pretty immature in your understanding of the story.
EDIT: All in all, pretty civil. I am proud of myself for not being overtly rude.