Thanks, Rob. Well said.
I can see the analogy between being in the closet and having a superhero-style "secret identity"; but I have to say, it still seems different to me in important ways. If a friend I'd known for a long time surprised me by coming out, I'd feel happy that they were able to do that, and sorry that they'd had to be be in the closet so long, but I wouldn't feel that they had deceived me in a way that I could blame them for. I get that they would have lied to me--but it would have been to avoid revealing deep desires and self-understandings, which they didn't feel safe sharing and which I had no particular right to know.
On the other hand, I think we have, if not exactly a "right," at least a more reasonable expectation to know in a much more basic and superficial way who we're interacting with--even if we don't know them by the names they are born with, and even if we know nothing about how they see themselves deep down, we should at least know whether we're dealing with one physical human being or two. For example, if I pretended to be my friend's counselor, and he told me secrets he wouldn't have shared with me as his friend, I think he'd have a reason to be mad. No? What if Diana shared his feelings for Wonder Woman with Diana Prince before he felt comfortable sharing them with Wonder Woman herself? Same kind of problem, right?
And of course, whether or not "Lt. Diana Prince" was a legitimately commissioned officer from the Army Nurses Corps was very much the business of her superior officers.
And ultimately, I just don't think her reasons for secrecy were nearly as good. The secret ID didn't seem to work to protect her loved ones, since people knew that Steve and Etta were close to Wonder Woman, even though they didn't know that she was Diana Prince. And it's not clear to me why she didn't think she could trust Steve and Etta to help keep her secret.
Is my analysis taking the comic way too seriously? Absolutely.

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