A Question For The Ladies

[Dennis K]

A girl I dated a long, long time ago (and was bisexual if that makes a difference) told me once that when a woman dresses up to go out, she doesn't really do it for the guy she might happen to be with, or to attract a guy's attention, she does it for other ladies. True or false, or a little of both?

[DarlingNikki]

i don't dress for the women at all! i dress so that the guys will know i'm a hottie!

[Solaris]

A girl I dated a long, long time ago (and was bisexual if that makes a difference) told me once that when a woman dresses up to go out, she doesn't really do it for the guy she might happen to be with, or to attract a guy's attention, she does it for other ladies. True or false, or a little of both?


I guess it depends on the woman. I dress up to feel good about how I look, to honor my date (hubby) with wearing something that fits the occasion/venue and for his enjoyment, *and* hopefully for others to enjoy it, if they like my look in some way (attracted or just "that's cool"). Doesn't matter to me if the others are male or female.

The one thing I *don't* do is dress to get "one-up-man-ship" on other women. I dress the way I want, they dress the way they want... and that's just how it is. I would rather be looked at on the merit of how I look, than compared to other women, or "trying to make other women jealous of how I look." Which some women *will* do... but not many of my acquaintance (that I've ever met/worked with/hung out with)! ;)

[i_mmmchocolate]

I don't dress for women at all either! I don't normally get dressed up, only if I'm going somewhere that has a dress code. Most of the time I dress casual.

[Puma]

I dress for the occasion and for myself. Dressing for the other women? sounds insecure to me.

[SteelTownr]

If I was a Woman who dressed to impress other Women, I wouldn't admit to it here.

Mark B.

[Athena Bast]

I dress for myself.

If I think I look hot or cool.. the rest is gravy.

[howyadoin]

If I was a Woman who dressed to impress other Women, I wouldn't admit to it here.Of course not; you'd say it via PM.

[phoenixrising]

I dont think its so much that we dress for other women...but that's the only gender that really notices our clothes/hair/makeup.

[Michael P]

Are you talking? The game is on!

[Nikita]

I pretty much dress for myself...and I like comfortable clothing. I'd rather blow money at an electronics store or something instead of on clothing anyway.

[howyadoin]

I'd rather blow money at an electronics store...I hear Radio Shack has a sale on batteries.

[JTLauder]

Of course it's different for every woman, but generally, I think that women tend to dress to impress men. Women don't generally dress to impress other women unless she "likes" other women, or that the other woman is her boss or something. But women do tend to dress to show one up other women. Men are competitive in the open, but women are competitive in a very subtle and sly way.

[tricksterpup]

You know, I think this works for both sexes, dressing up I mean. I think when we dress up and we are looking good, it makes us feel better.
As DarlingNikki has stated.
i don't dress for the women at all! i dress so that the guys will know i'm a hottie!
I mean, even the person who loves just to wear sweat pants all day; once placed in a fantastic dress outfit and cleaned up. They tend to feel good about themselves.
I even feel good when I dress up and hanging out with my crowd of friends, there is just something about wearing good clothes.

Heck, here is my latest outfit I picked up.
http://www.thecyberdogusa.com/morrco_1652_542968.gif

[Nikita]

I hear Radio Shack has a sale on batteries.

You are rotten to the core......lol. ;)

[phoenixrising]

You know, I think this works for both sexes, dressing up I mean. I think when we dress up and we are looking good, it makes us feel better.
As DarlingNikki has stated.

I mean, even the person who loves just to wear sweat pants all day; once placed in a fantastic dress outfit and cleaned up. They tend to feel good about themselves.
I even feel good when I dress up and hanging out with my crowd of friends, there is just something about wearing good clothes.

Heck, here is my latest outfit I picked up.
http://www.thecyberdogusa.com/morrco_1652_542968.gif

That's funny, i just got the same thing. Only in black. We must be shopping at the same stores (you dirty pup, you!).

[howyadoin]

You are rotten to the core......lol. ;)Aw, you know I was just tryin' to help...

[FunkyGreenJerusalem]

I dont think its so much that we dress for other women...but that's the only gender that really notices our clothes/hair/makeup.

Untrue.

Well, kinda true.

Guys don't really do the specifics.

We know what's hot, what works etc, but mainly whats hot.

We just don't know the whys or the details.
We don't wanna see behind the magicians curtain.
We accept at face value.

thats why guys never get the big deal about not noticing a hair cut.
We're just happy the girl looks good, we don't know why, or care why.

So if you do yourself up, the guys will notice you look hot, they just don't know, or care, what you've done to yourself to be hot.

[howyadoin]

I dont think its so much that we dress for other women...but that's the only gender that really notices our clothes/hair/makeup.I'm gonna give away a big Guy Secret here: a lot of the time we don't say anything 'cause we think the clothes/hair/makeup/etc. look stupid. Case in point: blue eyeshadow (especially below the eye), wearing a skirt over a pair of pants, shoes so long and pointy you can't walk up stairs, and high-water pants. I wouldn't pay somebody a compliment on any of those things 'cause it might encourage more of that behaviour.

Ladies, please - next time you're considering a new purchase, think more about how it actually looks and less about how trendy it might be.

[pood]

This thread needs some emasculation. It's rife with "she-males". :D

Even Solaris waited longer than you guys to crash the guy thread.


And at least she didn't co-op it like some people over here. :p

[phoenixrising]

I'm gonna give away a big Guy Secret here: a lot of the time we don't say anything 'cause we think the clothes/hair/makeup/etc. look stupid. Case in point: blue eyeshadow (especially below the eye), wearing a skirt over a pair of pants, shoes so long and pointy you can't walk up stairs, and high-water pants. I wouldn't pay somebody a compliment on any of those things 'cause it might encourage more of that behaviour.

Ladies, please - next time you're considering a new purchase, think more about how it actually looks and less about how trendy it might be.

I have a feeling the ladies on this board aren't those types. But preach it!

[FunkyGreenJerusalem]

I'm gonna give away a big Guy Secret here: a lot of the time we don't say anything 'cause we think the clothes/hair/makeup/etc. look stupid. Case in point: blue eyeshadow (especially below the eye), wearing a skirt over a pair of pants, shoes so long and pointy you can't walk up stairs, and high-water pants. I wouldn't pay somebody a compliment on any of those things 'cause it might encourage more of that behaviour.

Ladies, please - next time you're considering a new purchase, think more about how it actually looks and less about how trendy it might be.

Once, skirt over pants worked for me.
But then again, I was gunning for that chick anyway, so anything she wore would've done it for me.

It is hilarious though, when chicks pull down their skirts when they've got pants on underneath.
It's bizzare.

Uggboots aren't for outdoors but.
They are for the house, and only when you are with company where it's alright to be daggy.

[howyadoin]

Uggboots aren't for outdoors but.
They are for the house, and only when you are with company where it's alright to be daggy.I almost understood that.

[Shellhead]

I dont think its so much that we dress for other women...but that's the only gender that really notices our clothes/hair/makeup.

True. The main thing that guys notice right away is whether a woman is naked or not. Once the guy realizes that a woman is not naked, his mind tends to wander a bit, and he doesn't really notice details like nail polish or hair style. A guy will sort of notice clothes, but in a very general sense, like she's wearing a dress or she's wearing pants, or she's wearing a uniform, or she's wearing a nightgown.

Come to think of it, a guy might not notice hairstyle, but he will quickly notice when a woman cuts her hair too short. Men subconsciously associate long hair with young women, so when a woman gets a short haircut, men notice and not in a good way.

[Ayo]

True. The main thing that guys notice right away is whether a woman is naked or not. Once the guy realizes that a woman is not naked, his mind tends to wander a bit, and he doesn't really notice details like nail polish or hair style. A guy will sort of notice clothes, but in a very general sense, like she's wearing a dress or she's wearing pants, or she's wearing a uniform, or she's wearing a nightgown.

Come to think of it, a guy might not notice hairstyle, but he will quickly notice when a woman cuts her hair too short. Men subconsciously associate long hair with young women, so when a woman gets a short haircut, men notice and not in a good way.

:D

hahahaha. Its so funny because its the truth.

[FunkyGreenJerusalem]

I almost understood that.

makes one of us.

[howyadoin]

...or she's wearing a uniform...Ooh, damn good point.

[phoenixrising]

Come to think of it, a guy might not notice hairstyle, but he will quickly notice when a woman cuts her hair too short. Men subconsciously associate long hair with young women, so when a woman gets a short haircut, men notice and not in a good way.

Not exactly true. I cut my hair short from a long length last winter and it definitelly kicked up my game. It made me look older than 15, which is good when you're 23 and want to date men and get into bars.

[FunkyGreenJerusalem]

Not exactly true. I cut my hair short from a long length last winter and it definitelly kicked up my game. It made me look older than 15, which is good when you're 23 and want to date men and get into bars.

Yeah, but once you hit 24 your gonna wanna start looking young again.

(I'm happy looking younger than I am cause 1. It does mean I really HAVE to date younger women and 2.It's gonna be 6 years before I look my current age going by how often I get ID'ed. Which is good).

[Shellhead]

Yeah, but once you hit 24 your gonna wanna start looking young again.

Yeah, it seems bizarre, but many women start worrying about looking old when they are only in their mid-20's. It doesn't stop them from tanning or smoking or overeating or drinking too much, but they do worry.

[FunkyGreenJerusalem]

Yeah, it seems bizarre, but many women start worrying about looking old when they are only in their mid-20's. It doesn't stop them from tanning or smoking or overeating or drinking too much, but they do worry.

Thats cause guys can get girls in their early twenties up to and beyond our mid 30's.

Their playing field shrinks DRAMATICALLY and ours just keeps on keepin' on.

[Shellhead]

Thats cause guys can get girls in their early twenties up to and beyond our mid 30's.

Their playing field shrinks DRAMATICALLY and ours just keeps on keepin' on.

True. I'm 39, and my girlfriend is 24.

[Justin Davis]

I'm gonna give away a big Guy Secret here: a lot of the time we don't say anything 'cause we think the clothes/hair/makeup/etc. look stupid. Case in point: blue eyeshadow (especially below the eye), wearing a skirt over a pair of pants, shoes so long and pointy you can't walk up stairs, and high-water pants. I wouldn't pay somebody a compliment on any of those things 'cause it might encourage more of that behaviour.

Ladies, please - next time you're considering a new purchase, think more about how it actually looks and less about how trendy it might be.

Following this same line of logic, in a slightly more teasing-in-a-fun-way, I tease my students if they wear certain types of clothing. If they wear anything that has the name of the company emblazoned across the front, I call them billboard. In other words, if they're wearing a shirt that just says GAP, OLD NAVY, or AEROPOSTALE across the front, I say something like, "Hello, Billboard, how are you today?" Pleasantly, the point has gotten across to some of them.

[howyadoin]

Following this same line of logic, in a slightly more teasing-in-a-fun-way, I tease my students if they were certain types of clothing. If they wear anything that has the name of the company emblazoned across the front, I call them billboard. In other words, if they're wearing a shirt that just says GAP, OLD NAVY, or AEROPOSTALE across the front, I say something like, "Hello, Billboard, how are you today?" Pleasantly, the point has gotten across to some of them.Reminds me of the old hip hip line:

"Calvin Klein
Ain't no friend of mine,
Don't want his name
On my behind."

[phoenixrising]

Yeah, but once you hit 24 your gonna wanna start looking young again.

(I'm happy looking younger than I am cause 1. It does mean I really HAVE to date younger women and 2.It's gonna be 6 years before I look my current age going by how often I get ID'ed. Which is good).

I am 24 now. But I'm not trying to look older. I'm trying to look legal.

[howyadoin]

I am 24 now. But I'm not trying to look older. I'm trying to look legal.That just brings waaaaay too many inappropriate responses to mind.

[phoenixrising]

That just brings waaaaay too many inappropriate responses to mind.

Go on.... ;)

[howyadoin]

Go on.... ;)Let me err on the side of discretion and say that your looking young can't possibly be seen as a detriment to anybody dating you.

[Fabian]

Most guys don't notice the changes you do, but I do. Getting raised by a family of women does that. But just because I know what's "in" and what's "in style" doesn't mean I care. And if you look stupid, I would probably say, "Oh you changed your [blank]" and leave it at that and the girl would get all happy that I noticed. I much prefer how a woman carries herself

[nubly]

A girl I dated a long, long time ago (and was bisexual if that makes a difference) told me once that when a woman dresses up to go out, she doesn't really do it for the guy she might happen to be with, or to attract a guy's attention, she does it for other ladies. True or false, or a little of both?
its both. women do tend to do things for other women though. how many guys pay attention to a woman after she gets a manicure, pedicure or have her hair done? women will compliment women on these things. when you see a female that has done something different for herself, compliment her. they love that silly stuff

[Sabrinaset]

I try to dress for whoever I'm going out with, if the guy or girl is formal, I'll dress to that type, and if s/he is a slob, I dress that way too. I could care less what others think of me when they see me, male or female.

Of course, as a result of this, I have the most eclectic collection of clothing out there.

[phoenixrising]

Nubly is on a thread revival mission. These are like a year old!

[wader0069]

I have no idea, I am a dude that dresses to impress other dude's........god I suck.........yet another thread I should have stayed out of.....oh well bring on the strippers..... :D

[Gilda Dent]

When I was dating, I definitely dressed for the woman I was going out with on the date, but on an everyday basis, I dress for how the clothes make me feel about myself primarily, what Emily thinks secondarily, and when working, to project a professional image that is simultaneously stylishly feminine.

I've never dressed to impress a man in my life.

I get carded when going into a club about half the time, and I'm just short of 30. I find it amusing, and just a little annoying, but not really flattering.

Gilda

[Paradox]

Dennis K asks a wide brush-stroke question:

A girl I dated a long, long time ago (and was bisexual if that makes a difference) told me once that when a woman dresses up to go out, she doesn't really do it for the guy she might happen to be with, or to attract a guy's attention, she does it for other ladies. True or false, or a little of both?

There are certainly women like that out there. I was married to one. But it tends to be more of a "bar/club culture" thing than anything else. Far more predominant there than in "real life".

[Dennis K]

If I was a Woman who dressed to impress other Women, I wouldn't admit to it here.

Mark B.


Didn't you admit to wanting to make sweet sweet love to Big Ben?

[howyadoin]

Didn't you admit to wanting to make sweet sweet love to Big Ben?The clock tower?

[Rachel Grey]

I on occasion dress up for other women, but you know, not in that competative these-pants-are-Gucci-bitch! way.

[Dan Apodaca]

The clock tower?

That's gonna take a lot of lube.

[nubly]

I on occasion dress up for other women, but you know, not in that competative these-pants-are-Gucci-bitch! way.
how much was the most expensive bag you own?

[K'Nort]

In a club, picking-people-up scenario, I can see dressing to intimidate other women. As a competitive advantage. And the same thing within a relationship if someone is really insecure. But I think your average woman is paying more attention to what the guy she's with is interested in.

[Dennis K]

That's gonna take a lot of lube.


You're right, Mark's a big guy.

[Dennis K]

The clock tower?


That too....

[Typo Lad]

how much was the most expensive bag you own?

I know you were talking to someone else, but I'm going to take this moment to say that my wife has a $400 Kate Spade bag.

That was one of the few times I have honestly questioned her sanity.

[Forefinger]

I am 24 now. But I'm not trying to look older. I'm trying to look legal.
Oh my, 24 and barely legal eh?

Sorry, that's a running joke with my wife. I saw a porn magazine titled "18 and barely legal". My wife was 18 when I started seeing her and married her, so I'd always rag on her about it. I still say "26 and barely legal" to her now. She yells, "I'm legal!".

[tricksterpup]

Oh my, 24 and barely legal eh?

Sorry, that's a running joke with my wife. I saw a porn magazine titled "18 and barely legal". My wife was 18 when I started seeing her and married her, so I'd always rag on her about it. I still say "26 and barely legal" to her now. She yells, "I'm legal!".
I think being married to you would be a Crime. ;) So she isn't legal at all. And by the way, you do know the DNR made it a crime for you to reproduce.

[Noir_Dark]

IMO girls always look better with no makeup at all. And “wedding hair” makes me laugh.

[HomerJay]

IMO girls always look better with no makeup at all. And “wedding hair” makes me laugh.
I'm not into amateur porn, but lately I seem to like more candid and "unprofessional" pics. Just makes things feel more real.
I saw a published picture of Jenna Jameson once without makeup and it was the best I've ever seen her look. I prefer Evangeline Lilly's look on LOST much more than when she's dolled up for awards shows.

My wife rarely gets really dressed up and wears makeup, so when she does go all out...whoa Daddy.

[Gilda Dent]

IMO girls always look better with no makeup at all. And “wedding hair” makes me laugh.

Always is far too strong. If the makeup is obvious, drawing attention to itself, it's either been done for theatrical effect or has been poorly applied. Makeup is like perfume or spices in cooking; skillfully done, it ads and ehances the flavor in such a way as to be all but unnoticeable.

Gilda, who hasn't left the house without makup this century.

[Rachel Grey]

how much was the most expensive bag you own?

$55. Good sturdy leather & stylish too :)

And (shock horror!) it's the only one I own.

[Forefinger]

I think being married to you would be a Crime. ;) So she isn't legal at all. And by the way, you do know the DNR made it a crime for you to reproduce.
DNR? That's not nice.

[YoursTruly]

A girl I dated a long, long time ago (and was bisexual if that makes a difference) told me once that when a woman dresses up to go out, she doesn't really do it for the guy she might happen to be with, or to attract a guy's attention, she does it for other ladies. True or false, or a little of both?

When I dress up to go out it's an attempt to look better than any other girl who might be where I'm goin with my guy. I want him to feel like he's with the hottest chick there. If I can't pull it off at least he knows he's with one of the hottest girls. lol