Just a question....

[Pink Bat Maxine]

Something I'm exploring in my work.... Bisexuals will have to sit this one out, I fear.

Would you spend an evening dancing with the sex you are not attracted to (couples dancing, that is..... Jitterbox, waltz, etc.) to raise money for a worthy cause, and how would it make you feel?

Silly question to be sure, but I'm writing it in a story, so I'm interested in the take of others here.

Thanks for your indulgence.

[Chris Hansbrough]

I can't answer but hmmmm....that's a damn good question

[BnL]

My only reservation about it would be that I'm a TERRIBLE dancer. So in that sense, I'd feel a bit awkward. But other than that, it wouldn't even occur to me to be uncomfortable with the concept. As long as my dancing partner is cool, it could be pretty fun.

[bert]

absolutely (I dance w/ girls all the time anyways).

and it would make me feel happy, since I'd be helping to raise money for a good cause.

[Paul McEnery]

I'm not much of a dancer either -- although I've danced for money (! -- it was a comedy act) in a morris dancing side which was all about dancing with other men all day. And dancing in a ceilidh always involved dancing with other men in the mix, too.

BUT

The point is about sexual display towards women, about showing how comfortable you are with your sexuality, and being matey with the guys. Doing the sexy dancing with a not your choice of sex partner would be pretty much like doing the sexy dancing with anyone you didn't fancy. It would get tired pretty quick.

Because that dancing is like flirting. I can flirt with anyone and get something out of it. But without the kind of person I fancy being part of the mix, there's a spark missing.

Also: swinging a partner who's a lot bigger than you around your shoulders is a risky business.

[Sound Silence]

Them being the gender I'm not attracted to wouldn't make any difference, but I'm not much for dancing in any case.

[shrike]

Something I'm exploring in my work.... Bisexuals will have to sit this one out, I fear.

Would you spend an evening dancing with the sex you are not attracted to (couples dancing, that is..... Jitterbox, waltz, etc.) to raise money for a worthy cause, and how would it make you feel?

Silly question to be sure, but I'm writing it in a story, so I'm interested in the take of others here.

Thanks for your indulgence.

Indifferent. I mean... it's not like you are getting a hook up.

EDIT: unless of course you are dancing and it involves pasties, a pole and dollar bills. Then no, that would be bad.

[Shisho]

Yes, but maybe it's different for girls. I've danced with my girlfriends in the past, and even pretended to be gay for girlfriends who didn't feel like dealing with skeezy dudes at clubs. It's no big for me.

[Hybrid2]

Something I'm exploring in my work.... Bisexuals will have to sit this one out, I fear.

Would you spend an evening dancing with the sex you are not attracted to (couples dancing, that is..... Jitterbox, waltz, etc.) to raise money for a worthy cause, and how would it make you feel?

Silly question to be sure, but I'm writing it in a story, so I'm interested in the take of others here.

Thanks for your indulgence.

sound like my christmas party...

[Red Jack]

Something I'm exploring in my work.... Bisexuals will have to sit this one out, I fear.

Would you spend an evening dancing with the sex you are not attracted to (couples dancing, that is..... Jitterbox, waltz, etc.) to raise money for a worthy cause, and how would it make you feel?

Silly question to be sure, but I'm writing it in a story, so I'm interested in the take of others here.

Thanks for your indulgence.

Sure. No problem. But no dipping.

[Stressfactor]

Yes, but maybe it's different for girls. I've danced with my girlfriends in the past, and even pretended to be gay for girlfriends who didn't feel like dealing with skeezy dudes at clubs. It's no big for me.
You did that too? I danced with a friend who was a lesbian after she rescued me from an ULTRA skeevy guy who not only wouldn't take "no" for an answer but was getty "handy" about it... Ew.

I've also danced with some of my friends when they got married if they had 'dollar dances'. I would get in line for my friend, the bride, despite the fact that I usually got funny looks and one woman thought she was 'helping' me when she pointed out that I was in line to dance with the Bride. I just smiled and said "I know." The funny thing was, after I would do it several other girls then would do it too. :smile:

In the end I think the more important thing would be if your dance partner was a friend or a perfect stranger. I think with a perfect stranger it would be hard simply because you don't have that connection but when you do it with a friend there is a chance to laugh and joke and relax and have a good time at it. Also, as long as you're comfortable enough in your own sexuality to be cool with it then no biggie. The only possible problem would be with girls, you definitely have to designate who's going to 'lead'....

[Corrina]

I think it would be fun. Plus, no pressure.


Interesting question. I wonder if all the women will have some version of "that would be fine," and if the men's answers will differ.

[MacQuarrie]

Don't dance, can't make me.

[Reverend Smooth]

I've danced with plenty of folks I'm not attracted to, and I am bi-- being bi doesn't mean one's automatically attracted to someone else.

It's an exercise like any other, that's all. No big deal.

[Pink Bat Maxine]

In this context, I have a character confronting phobias this way..... This thread is confirming my impulse to have her friends be nonchalant. That's the way it would be most effective I think.

[Pink Bat Maxine]

I've danced with plenty of folks I'm not attracted to, and I am bi-- being bi doesn't mean one's automatically attracted to someone else.

It's an exercise like any other, that's all. No big deal.

Of course. But bisexuals are 35% more resistant to chronic cootie outbreaks, studies show.

[stealthwise]

Sure, why not.

[Spike-X]

I'm straight. I'd feel a lot more comfortable dancing with gay guys than straight guys.

Not sure what that's all about.

[Steward Ace]

First, I get horribly nervous and awkward dancing with anyone except my wife. So that may have something to do with my answer...

I'd be okay with it for charity, or if there was some reason. But there's just no way I'd feel comfortable dancing with a straight man. But like Spike-X, no problem dancing with a gay guy.

Weird- I wouldn't have thought of that had Spike not mentioned it.

[Charles RB]

Would you spend an evening dancing with the sex you are not attracted to (couples dancing, that is..... Jitterbox, waltz, etc.) to raise money for a worthy cause

Probably not, because I dance like shit.

how would it make you feel?

Silly.

[Charles RB]

being bi doesn't mean one's automatically attracted to someone else.


Porn has betrayed me for the last time.

[Flying Saucers Over Oz]

First off, to steal a line from Patton Oswalt, I dance like a Special Ed kid who's been given a sparkler.

Secondly, I'm Gay. Thus, not attracted to women. Which is whom men usually dance with anyway. So it wouldn't be all that weird.

[Dazzler]

Uh.

I'd dance with anybody, anywhere.

If they feel weird about it...they should probably leave the dance floor to people who aren't quite as...pussy-ish. ;)

--Dazz

[section 8]

Hmm, Back home where everyone knows me? Sure! Hell at my sisters wedding reception I pinched her groom on the ass and asked if he had any brothers.

But here in WY? I'm not sure. I'd Probably be up-tight about the idea beforehand, but when it came down to it I'd relax and have fun!

[Sound Silence]

In this context, I have a character confronting phobias this way..... This thread is confirming my impulse to have her friends be nonchalant. That's the way it would be most effective I think.

To put another perspective, I can tell you for sure that most of my male friends, such as they are, would probably view this as "fruity". Or pretty much any guy-guy contact is "fruity", aside from maybe your best buds giving you a manly hug when you get married.

So I think it depends on what kind of person they are and what their outlook is.

[Major Comma]

Sure ,
No problem.

[thespianphryne]

Good manners dictate that I afford at least one dance to all who graciously ask.


Also, I flirt with one and all.

[tangentman]

If she's tolerant of rusty dancing skills, I wouldn't turn down a chance to raise money for a worthy cause. Doing so with a female friend I already knew would be preferable to dancing with a total stranger, but I wouldn't let gender trump fund-raising. The question is hardly silly. People making a fuss of "going against the grain" in a platonic situation, otoh?

That IS silly. :smile:

[Steward Ace]

If they feel weird about it...they should probably leave the dance floor to people who aren't quite as...pussy-ish. ;)

--Dazz

(Slinks back to corner, waits for the 'pussies-only' dance to be announced)