How Can I Have A Double Standard About A Same Sex Attraction?

[Flying Saucers Over Oz]

Was going through some old magazines at the library recently and ran across something with a cover article on, I guess, three stars of the Columbus soccer team. And one of them was... Whoa. Oh, wow. Exactly the completely-out-of-my-league type that inspires some of my most inventive disgusting fantasies. Semi-twink, with muscles, face like a choirboy, body like a kickboxer, you know the type.

Anyway, I start paging through the mag looking for the article, hoping for more pictures. And yep, there's one of the guy. But he's got his shirt open, he's wearing jeans, and he's posed staring at the camera in a very Beefcake-like pose. And my immediate emotional reaction was "Slut! Whore! Jezebel!"

Hah? I mean, for Heaven's sakes, of course the guy knows he's gorgeous. And why shouldn't he work it? (Though, of course, poor dear's still young enough to think he's turning on tons of pretty ladies...) And why should I feel vaguely betrayed by all this when I don't even know the guy?

Weird...

[hellokittykat]

Well, in the kid's defense, he was doing a photo shoot, so he was probably told to pose like that. He may very well think that he's all that, but then he might just be doing his job. I know that I've goofed around "mugging" for the camera, even though I'm not sexy.

[Adam C]

That's because your hypocritical bourgeois morality still exercises a great control over your false consciousness Komrade.

[titanfan]

Hah? I mean, for Heaven's sakes, of course the guy knows he's gorgeous. And why shouldn't he work it? (Though, of course, poor dear's still young enough to think he's turning on tons of pretty ladies...) And why should I feel vaguely betrayed by all this when I don't even know the guy?

Seeing as how long it takes most people to get and stay in awesome physical condition--I I don't blame them for wanting to show it off. There are a lot of times I'm like: "If I had his body, I would never wear a shirt. Ever."

[section 8]

Human hypocrisy knows no such bounds my friend.

no matter what your race, creed, gender, religion, sexual preference, or whatever

chances are, on some level, you suck

[Flying Saucers Over Oz]

chances are, on some level, you suck

Well, if I did more often, I wouldn't need the magazine... (Rimshot)

[BnL]

I don't think I've ever really thought of someone as a slut based on a picture. And if I did, it wasn't in a bad way. Unless they're DUMB sluts. That's a whore of a different color. Dumb sluts are just tiresome.

What I HAVE done, though, which is probably just as disturbing, is, if I see a picture of a twink, I think, "Ew! I hate twinks!" I mean, I don't literally HATE twinks. I just don't find (most of) them attractive. But it's weird that my mind thinks "HATE!" right off the bat like that. I'm trying to train myself to stop that.


...even though I'm not sexy.

Liar!

[Flying Saucers Over Oz]

Re: Twinks.

Yeah, I've had kinda the same knee-jerk reaction to more obvious types. Awhile back, I was in a Gay bookstore and there was a guy standing there with one hand on his hip, the other curled into that vaguely wounded puppy-like pose. And my first thought was, "YES, you're GAY, we GET it already, KNOCK IT OFF!"

Not nice at all, and something I need to work on.

[beetlebum]

I hate double standards - and maybe I wouldn't have such a problem with the words "sluts" and "whores" if the term was applied equally to both genders (the thing is though; they're not.)

EDITTOADD: I do realise that I have my own double standards, and things to overcome as well.

Still, good on you Flying Saucers for recognising this, and for discussing it with us in order to assess your feelings. :)

[Cam63]

Different strokes, I guess.