if you had no kids would you seriously consider a mom or dad?

[YoungG03]

http://necolebitchie.com/2008/01/07/13-reasons-to-avoid-dating-single-mothers/

You are young, worryfree (except bills and job) and childless but you encounter a mother or father who you connect with. Would you seriously pursue a relationship?

[StoneGold]

At this stage in my life, all signs point to no. For a variety of reasons. The only way I could see it happening is accidentally, and then I'd probably be all pissed off for hiding the fact that she had kids.

[Dreadstar]

Wow, that's pretty misogynistic

And believe me, I know misogynistic.

Nah, nevermind. This whole bit is too easy.



However, I'm frankly quite ticked that I inadvertently raised that bitch's blog hit count. Thanks, G.

[YoungG03]

huh what are you talking about

[mattx110]

Wow, that's pretty misogynistic

And believe me, I know misogynistic.

Nah, nevermind. This whole bit is too easy.



However, I'm frankly quite ticked that I inadvertently raised that bitch's blog hit count. Thanks, G.
I didn't click the link, but I'm gonna take a leap of faith here, and partially submit my letter of agreement with Dreadstar for the first time in recent history.

[Paradox]

Heh, not even gonna go to the link if that's Dread's review.

I always figured at my age, the only way I'm gonna have any kids I meet someone who already has them. That's actually worked out quite well for several of my friends.

[Ed Cunard]

That's actually the way I hope to have kids--that, or adoption. I'm not particularly fond of the idea of passing my fucked up genes on to future generations.

[Agent Helix]

huh what are you talking about

The blog post you linked is either a pile of awful, woman-hating shit, or somebody's piss-poor attempt to rip off a Chris Rock bit.

[Paradox]

Morbid curiosity is a force to be reckoned with.

"10) Bad Judge of Character - This female got knocked up by somebody that she was “supposely in love with.” Not only is she a bad judge of character, she’s GROSSLY irresponsible. The same guy that’s an a$$hole now, is the same guy she thought the world of and had unprotected sex with."

Yes, that's why she's dating YOU!

[Shellhead]

I've dated a few single mothers in the past. In my experience, they will never love a guy as much as they love their kids. Maybe that's true about married women, too, but I doubt it. I'm not opposed to the idea of dating a woman with kids, just realistic about how it would work.

[Dreadstar]

Morbid curiosity is a force to be reckoned with.

"10) Bad Judge of Character - This female got knocked up by somebody that she was “supposely in love with.” Not only is she a bad judge of character, she’s GROSSLY irresponsible. The same guy that’s an a$$hole now, is the same guy she thought the world of and had unprotected sex with."

Yes, that's why she's dating YOU!

Actually, that one was one of the one's a partially agreed with, 'Dox.

That and the fact that the ho prolly gots da stretched out pussy, fo'sure.

[Dreadstar]

I've dated a few single mothers in the past. In my experience, they will never love a guy as much as they love their kids. Maybe that's true about married women, too, but I doubt it. I'm not opposed to the idea of dating a woman with kids, just realistic about how it would work.

Knock yerself out, but guy, when my wife had our kid, I went DIRECTLY to number two on the list. NO doubt about it. Huzzah.

[Mike Pothier]

Some of those reasons are stupid, but #13 seems like a really good reason to think about it before you date a single mother.

Leykis 101.

[Dreadstar]

Some of those reasons are stupid, but #13 seems like a really good reason to think about it before you date a single mother.


Incorrect. #13 is something you should consider before you ask her or choose to move in with each other and the kid(s).

You can't get hit for child support sans co-habitation, and if you're cohabitating for long enough to get sued for child support, then maybe you should own up to it, or at LEAST have the balls to admit, "SHIT! I fucked up!"

[mattx110]

The blog post you linked is either a pile of awful, woman-hating shit, or somebody's piss-poor attempt to rip off a Chris Rock bit.
Have you seen the last Chris Rock movie?

It's pretty much an hour and a half of Chris Rock going "I'm still black, right guys?"

[mgs]

I dunno, in some circles, some of those things can be considered true, but it's a very, 'from-the-hip' article and obviously meant to inflame.

Not all single mother relationships are like that, but some are. Most of it is stereotypical with a hint of truth.

[Agent Helix]

Have you seen the last Chris Rock movie?

It's pretty much an hour and a half of Chris Rock going "I'm still black, right guys?"

Oh, Rock's been irrelevant as a comedian for years now, don't get me wrong. The post just does seem like a half-assed mimicry of something he might've put in his stand-up at some point.

[StoneGold]

Wow, that's pretty misogynistic

And believe me, I know misogynistic.

Nah, nevermind. This whole bit is too easy.



However, I'm frankly quite ticked that I inadvertently raised that bitch's blog hit count. Thanks, G.

I didn't read the link, but less misogynistic, more just selfish. But screw it, so I put my own happiness over some girl who got herself knocked up.

[Dreadstar]

I dunno, in some circles, some of those things can be considered true...

...the crux of the thing, I think.


Really, think about it.

[mgs]

...the crux of the thing, I think.


Really, think about it.

yeah I know....*thinking about it*

[Crowforge]

As long as the kid is younger than me...

[Dreadstar]

As long as the kid is younger than me...

Even that's not a deal-breaker if the kid is smokin' hot.

[Paradox]

mgs speaks saying:

Most of it is stereotypical with a hint of truth.

That's redundant = )

[Agent Helix]

Even that's not a deal-breaker if the kid is smokin' hot.

"Dear Penthouse, I never thought it would happen to me..."

[Ed Cunard]

Even that's not a deal-breaker if the kid is smokin' hot.

"Don't you know my mom?"

[Paradox]

"...biblically?"

[Dreadstar]

"Don't you know my mom?"

We have a winnah!

[Ed Cunard]

For me, having a kid isn't a deal-breaker. Having a great-grandkid, that probably crosses a line. I've even known a grandmother I would date. In my defense, she was in her early forties an--

Jesus fuck, I'm getting old, too.

[thespianphryne]

Let's put it this way, I wouldn't let children be a deal breaker.

Even if once I was the deal breaker for the children. Interfering bastards.


-Das

[thespianphryne]

For me, having a kid isn't a deal-breaker. Having a great-grandkid, that probably crosses a line. I've even known a grandmother I would date. In my defense, she was in her early forties an--

Jesus fuck, I'm getting old, too.

See my above post. The kids freaked out.


-Das

[Dreadstar]

...Having a great-grandkid, that probably crosses a line.

But at least your objection probably isn't some stereotypical hardline smacking of racial overtones.


...or is it?

[Agent Helix]

But at least your objection probably isn't some stereotypical hardline smacking of racial overtones.


...or is it?

Fucking white people.

[Mike Pothier]

Incorrect. #13 is something you should consider before you ask her or choose to move in with each other and the kid(s).

You can't get hit for child support sans co-habitation, and if you're cohabitating for long enough to get sued for child support, then maybe you should own up to it, or at LEAST have the balls to admit, "SHIT! I fucked up!"

Good point. Honestly, if I was considering asking a single mom out, I would never consider moving in with her.

[Dreadstar]

See my above post. The kids freaked out.


-Das

What? They couldn't believe that mama munched carpet?

HEH! That happened to a cousin of mine when his mother settled into a same-sex relationship years after this dad died.

Her reply was something along the lines of "Deal with it, sweetie."

[Ed Cunard]

But at least your objection probably isn't some stereotypical hardline smacking of racial overtones.


...or is it?

I don't know. Do all Jews love Bea Arthur, or is it just StoneGold? My answer depends on information I don't currently possess.

[Dreadstar]

Good point. Honestly, if I was considering asking a single mom out, I would never consider moving in with her.

Yeah, you say that and then she fixes you the best damn Sunday dinner you ever had and tops it off that evening with some killer Columbian and head that would make the angels weep and the next thing you know you're getting keys made.

[mgs]

That's redundant = )

sorry, phrased that incorrectly. thinking more in terms of the sometimes offensive jokes that sometimes do ring of a hint of truth.

not sure that explanation helps any though. O.o
Point is, while that's an offensive article, there is some truth behind some of what it says.

[Dreadstar]

I don't know. Do all Jews love Bea Arthur, or is it just StoneGold? My answer depends on information I don't currently possess.

Racist.
...

[Dreadstar]

Point is, while that's an offensive article, there is some truth behind some of what it says.

The slack pussy, right? You've had a Polygrip moment, is that it?









....god someone stop me, I cannot stop clowning this thread.

[Mike Pothier]

Wouldn't work on me.

Now, if she can give me a detailed Zelda timeline, complete with the capcom games, I'll be signing over the lease to her.

[Valmore]

I guess I'm out, since I'm married and have my own child, however, trying to think about it fron a different perspective, say my life was completely different:

It would probably depend on my age. The younger I would have been, the less likely I'd probably have wanted to date a single mother. Young single mothers have it rough, I'd imagine, since most young, single guys probably don't want to date someone and get tied down with another guy's kid or kids.

At an older age, I would probably have been cool with it.

[thespianphryne]

What? They couldn't believe that mama munched carpet?

HEH! That happened to a cousin of mine when his mother settled into a same-sex relationship years after this dad died.

Her reply was something along the lines of "Deal with it, sweetie."

Partly. The real problem was that I was only a couple of years older than her oldest at the time.


-Das

[Dreadstar]

Partly. The real problem was that I was only a couple of yeara older than her oldest at the time.

Ah. Well then, that's just sick.

Pervert.

[mgs]

The slack pussy, right? You've had a Polygrip moment, is that it?

lol! :D

actually, I have not had that experience yet. Look, but not feel different, (sorry, tmi) but they were young moms.

[thespianphryne]

Ah. Well then, that's just sick.

Pervert.

*cries*

I take back what I said about you being an old soppy. Meanie!


-Das

[Slam_Bradley]

Knock yerself out, but guy, when my wife had our kid, I went DIRECTLY to number two on the list. NO doubt about it. Huzzah.


Anyone who thinks this won't happen is deluding themselves. Or is with a woman with no mothering instincts whatsoever.

[Slam_Bradley]

For me, having a kid isn't a deal-breaker. Having a great-grandkid, that probably crosses a line. I've even known a grandmother I would date. In my defense, she was in her early forties an--

Jesus fuck, I'm getting old, too.


I have a client who just gave guardianship of her kid to the mother/grandmother. Said GILF is SMOKIN' HOT! Puts my client to shame.

[Jack Zodiac]

Oh, holy shit, that blog's hilarious!

"If some kid is going to interrupt the meanest head you’ve ever gotten, that kid should have your last name."

Ah hahahahahaha!

Oh, fuck, and then this one's awesome.

"You are with the woman, then everything falls apart. You not only [sic] do you have to deal with losing the woman, but you’ve formed a bond with lil’ Jimmy."

After a list full of "fuck dat kid if he ain't mine, I wants me some beat out pussy," now the list maker gives a shit about the little bastard? Get bent you illiterate shit! Man... I'm with Dread, I'm sorry I gave that piece of shit hits for what little entertainment it gave me in return.

As for the question, I'd date a woman with a kid if I liked her, and I wouldn't mind takin' the kid out if I liked him or her, too; but I remember when I was four or five and my dad used to take me to his girlfriends' houses. If you're old enough to recognize that your mother or father's dating somebody other than your other parent, you're old enough to hate 'em for it. And I could love a woman with a kid if she were the right woman, but the kid's an extra variable. If they don't like you, no matter how much their mom or dad digs ya', things are never gonna work out.

In essence, if you're dating a single parent, you're essentially dating two people. You have to like or love both of them and both of them have to feel the same about you if it's ever going to work out in the long run.

[Rattlehead]

Well, Ive actually dated a single mother, and it turned into a really shitty experience. I got along well with the kid and the mother and I had a good relationship for the most part. BUT, after stringing me along for a year and a half, I found out, from her fucking parents no less, that she had been cheating on me for months. Cheating with whom? Yep, the child's bilogical father. I worked days, he worked nights. She had two pathetic saps to fuck around with all day long. It doesn't matter how crappy her relationship with the father is, she's always going to have a place for him in her heart. And if he starts sniffing around again, she'll drop replacement daddy like a bag of hot rocks.

I didn't click that link though. Just the stupid name of it kept me at bay.

[bfrank]

http://necolebitchie.com/2008/01/07/13-reasons-to-avoid-dating-single-mothers/

You are young, worryfree (except bills and job) and childless but you encounter a mother or father who you connect with. Would you seriously pursue a relationship?

No, no, and no.....Did once, and dropped her as soon as she said I was not to discipline her bad ass kid.....

[BYC]

I would definitely consider it. Although I do want to have one boy to continue the lineage (it's important enough to the family, but not to me), I've seen many friends and extended family members take on other children and work out fine.