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WhiteRose

10-16-2007, 08:22 PM

So it was being thrown around the office today that there are 'rules' when it comes to dating and the like, like the fella offers to pay for everything for the first few get-togethers and you don't sleep with the other person until at least the 4th date.

We realised we've broken all the ones we could come up with. Ehehe, oops.

So I ask you, being that I'm currently in the early stages of trying to seduce the hell out of someone and feel I may have broken some sort of etiquette surrounding the process on Monday night, what sort of rules do you follow when you're just beginning to see someone?

shrike

10-16-2007, 08:28 PM

I don't kiss on the first date.

I wait usually a few weeks til we get nekkid... now this depends on how bad I am at the time, I shoot for three weeks. Haven't always made it.

The breaking of rules happens, I understand... heck, most of us do.

TomStillwell

10-16-2007, 08:30 PM

Definately no farting until...um, like date four.

shrike

10-16-2007, 08:33 PM

Definately no farting until...um, like date four.

LOL omg in my world I pretend no one does this.

I know, I have issues.

TomStillwell

10-16-2007, 08:36 PM

LOL omg in my world I pretend no one does this.

I know, I have issues.

Amazing that I've been married almost ten years, right?

shrike

10-16-2007, 08:37 PM

Amazing that I've been married almost ten years, right?

Well not so much that, more like not so amazing I've only lasted 2 1/2 tops in one.

I'm more like 'EW WTF did you do, NASTY!'. ;)

TomStillwell

10-16-2007, 08:46 PM

Well not so much that, more like not so amazing I've only lasted 2 1/2 tops in one.

I'm more like 'EW WTF did you do, NASTY!'. ;)

My wife would kill me for posting this, but since she doesn't read these boards, I'm golden.

My wife farts. ALOT. Like all the time. The silent but deadly ones.

Okay, I can deal with that. It's not like I don't do the left cheek sneak myself.

It's her timing that kills me.

Here's how it usually pans out:

We're in the supermarket shopping. She farts and makes not a sound.

Her farts like...hang in the air long after she's gone. Like a mist. So along comes me pushing the cart...I smell it...GAHHH!!!

And then everyone else in the isle smells it, looks around, and there's this great big giant of a man right in the midst of it. Conclusions are drawn.

I catch up to her in the next isle, blushing and POed. She laughs.

She does this too me every damn time we go shopping!

shrike

10-16-2007, 08:47 PM

OMFG and I'm like totally sitting here laughing my ass off... omg... omg... omg

Corrina

10-16-2007, 09:31 PM

Or you can just be a drunken college student who drags a guy home and has hot sex and then ends up married for twenty plus years.

Hypothetically speaking, of course.

Psst...no one tell my kids.

shrike

10-16-2007, 09:35 PM

Or you can just be a drunken college student who drags a guy home and has hot sex and then ends up married for twenty plus years.

Hypothetically speaking, of course.

Psst...no one tell my kids.

Where is the emote icon where your jaw drops like 10 feet when you need it????

Corrina

10-16-2007, 09:38 PM

Well, I only did it *once.*

The married part, I mean.

Crowley

10-16-2007, 09:43 PM

I broke both of those first two rules on the first date with my girlfriend... but we've both kinda felt like we've known each other for a very long time...

BnL

10-16-2007, 09:43 PM

My brother calls that sort of thing "the piece of ass that went wrong."

Jack Zodiac

10-16-2007, 10:04 PM

Definately no farting until...um, like date four.

I fart on the first date.

Really, I don't think there should be rules to follow, just basic guidelines. For one thing, absolutely no time tables. Like Shrike. She's got a general idea of how long it's gonna take before someone sees her naked, but it obviously isn't concrete. Naked could be five days or three weeks. It just happens. However, I think you should always go into a date expecting not to make it to a kiss, and almost definitely not to anything involving nudity, genitalia, or rubber fists. Just expect that it won't happen, until something tips you off that it absolutely will happen, then go for it. Waiting's for suckers, anyway.

Jack Zodiac

10-16-2007, 10:07 PM

She does this too me every damn time we go shopping!

I know it's a little late, what with two kids and a decade of marriage behind you and all, but, Tom... never let her go!

KevinTBrown

10-16-2007, 10:20 PM

Hmmm, I'm not sure first date rules applied to when I met my wife. We had already been talking online and on the phone for 4 months...... If they do, then, oh yeah, we broke some rules!

Now while nowadays that's not a big deal as far as meeting online, I've been married to her for 11 and half years. We met online Feb. of '95. ;)

Cam63

10-17-2007, 01:16 AM

My wife would kill me for posting this, but since she doesn't read these boards, I'm golden.

My wife farts. ALOT. Like all the time. The silent but deadly ones.

Okay, I can deal with that. It's not like I don't do the left cheek sneak myself.

It's her timing that kills me.

Here's how it usually pans out:

We're in the supermarket shopping. She farts and makes not a sound.

Her farts like...hang in the air long after she's gone. Like a mist. So along comes me pushing the cart...I smell it...GAHHH!!!

And then everyone else in the isle smells it, looks around, and there's this great big giant of a man right in the midst of it. Conclusions are drawn.

I catch up to her in the next isle, blushing and POed. She laughs.

She does this too me every damn time we go shopping!

I really like your wife, Tommo.

Cam63

10-17-2007, 01:19 AM

Alan Lynch

10-17-2007, 02:25 AM

I've never had any sort of guidelines. I'd say don't get steaming drunk on the first date, but I - and the girl I was with - did that one too and it ended up a 9 month relationship. Don't pick your nose maybe?

TomStillwell

10-17-2007, 06:11 AM

I know it's a little late, what with two kids and a decade of marriage behind you and all, but, Tom... never let her go!

Two kids? She's holding out on me! Where'd that other kid come from? Has she been farting around with some other guy? I'll moider him!

sunshinegirl

10-17-2007, 07:05 AM

hmmm... man, it's been a while since i thought about dating rules... um.. i think common respect for each other. i always expected the door to be held open for me.

i went on a date once with a guy- he said, "it's on me, order whatever you'd like". i ordered. nothing elaborate- i'm not into all that crap. later on he had to borrow money from me. i thought that was hilarious.

now, if somone showed up at my door with my favorite flowers- it'd be ON! hehehe (because that would mean he actually listened! *gasp*)
note: that was past tense, people

sunshinegirl

10-17-2007, 07:07 AM

Two kids? She's holding out on me! Where'd that other kid come from? Has she been farting around with some other guy? I'll moider him!

maybe she just has some news to share?? :confused:

...but how would jack know?

sounds fishy if you ask me! ;)

WhiteRose

10-17-2007, 07:18 AM

*frantically scribbles notes* No drinking...hold the doors open...keep an eye on the kids...

Wait, what?

Alan Lynch

10-17-2007, 08:25 AM

To paraphrase Jay, don't whip your dick out unless she - or indeed he - asks.

singoalla

10-17-2007, 09:32 AM

I'll second Alan: I always try to make sure the guy I'm with knows if touching etc is ok, and if it isn't. Just so there will be no misunderstandings. and vice versa I hope...

Aside from that, basic good manners are looked favourably upon, but it is not necessary to pay for my entire meal and possible drinks.

Lester C.

10-17-2007, 09:35 AM

For me it depends on what my expectations of the potential relationship are. My rules for a one night stand and something that might be long term are completely different. The only consistent rule I have is to be honest, to varying levels, with the other party and to always use multiple forms of protection.

hellokittykat

10-17-2007, 09:54 AM

LewisH

10-17-2007, 09:59 AM

I fell in love at first sight with my gf and have been with her now for over 20 years. It took me 10 years of coaxing to get her to see me as more than just a friend but I knew she was the one and was more than willing to wait.

You would not believe some of the bad boyfriends she went through in that time. For those, of you that think nice guys never get the girl, here's one success story at least

Jack Zodiac

10-17-2007, 10:14 AM

Two kids? She's holding out on me! Where'd that other kid come from? Has she been farting around with some other guy? I'll moider him!

Oh, shit! Jig's up.

I mean... one kid. You don't have two kids, and you certainly don't have an illegitimate stepson in Mexico. Absolutely not!

Cam63

10-17-2007, 07:34 PM

I'm impressed that Mrs. Stillwell could be used as an offensive weapon in stealth conditions.

...Especially if she stumbles onto this thread.

TomStillwell

10-17-2007, 08:33 PM

I'm impressed that Mrs. Stillwell could be used as an offensive weapon in stealth conditions.

...Especially if she stumbles onto this thread.

I'm dead if she reads this. Dead, I say.

One thing I can't stress enough is honesty.

When Caty and I first started dating we both kind of knew it was something special. We just knew.

We had dated maybe three weeks when a guy she had made a blind date with before meeting me called to remind her that they were getting together. She didn't really want to go but felt it would be rude to cancel. I told her I'd rather she didn't but that it wasn't my decision to make.

She told me that she canceled. But she didn't. And I found out.

I wasn't mad because she went. I was mad because she tried to cover it up. She felt that I would be upset.

So one, she wasn't honest. And two, she didn't trust me enough to be mature about the situation.

Clearly it all worked out, but I can't stress enough that being honest and frank is of utmost importance.

Let people know where they stand. Don't try to spare feelings because in the end you usually only make things worse.

shrike

10-17-2007, 10:51 PM

I can't stress enough that being honest and frank is of utmost importance.

So in your relationship, which one of you plays Honest and which one plays Frank?

(ok ok bad joke... couldn't resist)

Kyuubi

10-17-2007, 11:40 PM

So, just throwing this out there. . .

Going to the birthday of the person you like, never telling them you like them, and then not contacting them for say. . . 5 months. . . would be a bad way to attempt to start a relationship, right?

This is just speculation on my part.

Jack Zodiac

10-17-2007, 11:49 PM

Not exactly. It'd be a bad idea if you poured all of your feelings out the very next time you talk to them, though; but it's entirely possible to reconnect with someone better than you ever had before after months of not seeing them.

Kyuubi

10-17-2007, 11:54 PM

It wouldn't help that she got a boyfriend during this 5 month span, would it?

Jack Zodiac

10-18-2007, 12:02 AM

No. No, it would not. Unless he swings like that.

Cam63

10-18-2007, 12:02 AM

I think that would be somewhat of a hindrance.

Kyuubi

10-18-2007, 12:05 AM

I think that would be somewhat of a hindrance.

You think?

Darn, I had an inkling it might be troublesome.

Cam63

10-18-2007, 12:07 AM

*Goes back to studying all seeing eyeball thingy that foretells everything*

WhiteRose

10-18-2007, 12:41 AM

I don't know Kyuubi, how do you feel about subtle girlfriend-stealing?

Kyuubi

10-18-2007, 12:49 AM

I don't know Kyuubi, how do you feel about subtle girlfriend-stealing?

I feel that I'd need to know the guy first. If he was a dick, no problem. But if he's a good guy, I'd feel bad, and she deserves someone nice.

WhiteRose

10-18-2007, 12:53 AM

I feel that I'd need to know the guy first. If he was a dick, no problem. But if he's a good guy, I'd feel bad, and she deserves someone nice.

And that is exactly what makes you a good fella, Kyu'.

Kyuubi

10-18-2007, 12:58 AM

Yeah.

Tell me more about this subtle girlfriend-stealing thing.

Cam63

10-18-2007, 12:58 AM

Does she like fuzzy blue ducks ?

Kyuubi

10-18-2007, 12:59 AM

Who knows, a lot can happen in five months.

WhiteRose

10-18-2007, 01:00 AM

Hey, if American movies have taught me anything, it's the girl will date the big man before succumbing to the sweet persistance of her longtime good friend.

Cam63

10-18-2007, 01:01 AM

Then you're moving too slow.

...Or maybe you're doing the honourable thing.

Cam63

10-18-2007, 01:01 AM

Hey, if American movies have taught me anything, it's the girl will date the big man before succumbing to the sweet persistance of her longtime good friend.

Unless it's a Tarantino movie.

WhiteRose

10-18-2007, 01:04 AM

Unless it's a Tarantino movie.

In which case it's brutally beat the woman you love who's pregnant with your baby, leave her in a coma and take the baby, awaiting the day she wakes up to hunt you down and Pai Mei your ass.

Kyuubi

10-18-2007, 01:04 AM

Hey, if American movies have taught me anything, it's the girl will date the big man before succumbing to the sweet persistance of her longtime good friend.

Are you saying I should change my name to Long Duck Dong?

Jack Zodiac

10-18-2007, 08:21 AM

I don't know Kyuubi, how do you feel about subtle girlfriend-stealing?

I stole my girlfriend from Macy's. It's easy, Kyuubi. Just get a really big sweater and baggy pants.

Cam63

10-18-2007, 08:23 AM

In which case it's brutally beat the woman you love who's pregnant with your baby, leave her in a coma and take the baby, awaiting the day she wakes up to hunt you down and Pai Mei your ass.

I love Meg Ryan movies.