Could Use Some Prayers

[malephoenix]

Not trying to use this as a preachy thing. Just wanted to ask for some prayers after a difficult falling-out with my girlfriend. Since I've joined, I've gotten to know a few of you rather well, and I've at least brushed up against countless others in various threads, etc. Unfortunately, since it's the middle of Christmas Break, most of my buds are out of town, and some are even out of country, either going home or doing mission work. I called and talked to one of them for a while, but it sure makes things worse to have to go through crap when you're closest compadres aren't around.

I had to face up that it was an unhealthy relationship, and I had to say we needed to go different ways completely. Being heartbroken sucks, and I know everyone here's dealt with it. (I've dealt with it before also; sucks how it still hurts so much even after experience, you know?) I also know I could've been through much worse. I have some friends that haven't even been married two years, and they just had twins, losing them both to complications within days of birth. (Actually, maybe I should ask for prayers for them, instead. They're worse off than I am.)

Sorry for the stream-of-consciousness writing, but as hurt as I am, it's about as clearly as I'm thinking, especially after a sleepless night.



On a related note, thanks all, for making this an actual community. I've seen other places online, and I even belong to a few other forums, but this is the only one that actually shows it's cool to just post something like this.

[Night]

How about we pray for all of y'all. Just because someone else's pain may seem more potent... it don't make yours any less real.

[malephoenix]

Thanks, man. Appreciate it.

[Jeff Brady]

Good luck to you.

[Chris N]

We're all with you. Thoughts and prayers.

[Winslow]

Sorry to hear about your troubles. I just prayed for you.

I thank God I didn't end up with my gf I had at your age.

[Mike Smash!]

I'll have my fingers crossed for you, male. You should be proud that you spotted an unhealthy relationship and got out of it. Sometimes we waste far too much time with people like that because we're comfortable in our misery.

It may hurt now, but rest assured that you made the right choice.

One piece of advice though, from experience. Stay away from her and don't bother trying to be her friend. It never works and if she was a disfunctional girlfriend, she probably won't be much of a friend either. And you'll need time alone to heal for a while and you don't need her presense re-opening the wounds over and over.

[howyadoin]

Best of luck, man. You did the right thing, even if it sometimes feels like you didn't.

[SUPERECWFAN1]

I'll be pullin for ya as well man. You have my thoughts and prayors as well. Good luck and all.

[Nikita]

Best of luck dude. Hope 2007 goes better for you in that area.

[jaguarshark]

Good luck with everything. Onwards and upwards in 2007!

[Cam63]

What the rest said, mate.

[malephoenix]

Thanks, all. ...Don't really have much to say but thanks. (The first few weeks are the most difficult for me...)

[malephoenix]

I thank God I didn't end up with my gf I had at your age.

I know that a yaer from now, I'll look back and be SO glad it didn't work out.









I have to admit, though, that I tried to make it work, even after posting this. She wronged me again, even deeper, and it made me think about how better off I'd be now if I had just cut her out in January. ("What ifs" are never healthy, anyway, so I'm trying to stay away from dwelling on that.) Well, now I have no choice due to the circumstances BUT to cut her out. So God bless her, but three months from now, I will NOT be looking back and seeing a missed opportunity to get rid of her in April.

Goodbye, ex. These other posters were right; I should have quit you and stayed quit. I hope you end up safer and healthier, and as much as I wish I could say something more positive, that's all I can muster.