Stuff to do with your girlfriend?

[Gargus]

Ok this is a serious question. I recently found out a girl I like feels same about me, but her situation doesnt allow for us to be more than friends for just a little longer so were just taking it easy and being friends for now.

In all my 31 years I never really liked anyone before so I dont have alot of first hand knowledge. While I can normally give other people advice when it comes to myself I never know what to do in these situations.

But needless to say she has had a shitty time for a very long time. I was trying to come up with maybe some various things we could do together that would be varying degrees of fun or romantic or something she might not expect of me or whatnot.

I just spent the better part of my life alone and I actually like her alot and want to make a impression. So I need some help till I can take off the training wheels so to speak hehe.

Thanks.

[TheTen-EyedMan]

The easiest thing to do is take her to movies she likes, stores she likes to shop at and places she likes to eat.

[Gargus]

Well I figured that. I know she likes the whole lay on the couch with the blanket and watch movies also.

But was looking for other stuff to. Going to be spacing stuff out over time hehe.

All I can come up with is like normal cliche stuff which is fine but I know women like it when you do something unexpected also.

[thehod]

The easiest thing to do is take her to movies she likes, stores she likes to shop at and places she likes to eat.

Add into that the theatre. There is something that little bit extra special with going to see a show, especially if you throw in a dinner as well.

[moebius]

First: Congratulations.

Second: Indoor activities. Minigolf (indoor in the Midwest at least). Pool. Scrabble! Bowling.

Third: Outdoor activities. Go on a hike. Go out to Walden Pond and poke around (if you live in Boston; insert culturally significant place here).

Learn from one another. Figure out what she likes, and ask her to do that with you. Figure out what you like, and ask her to do that with you.

[Valmore]

Roam around the mall a few hours without really buying anything and playing video games at the arcade.

Hey, it's what worked in New Jersey.

[Motormouse]

Live music events are good to do as a couple.....so long as one doesn't loath the others musical tastes!

[Typo Lad]

I'm going to get this one out of the way:

SEX!

That said, most of the suggestions here are already good.

Just be, you know?

[dingo]

Sometimes it doesn't matter if you had to go to a lot of effort to organise it.

Picnic is a good one.

[TheTen-EyedMan]

Add into that the theatre. There is something that little bit extra special with going to see a show, especially if you throw in a dinner as well.

But not if it's going to be watching you in a dinner theatre version of Beginner's Luck in Scottsdale, Arizona. Because then you'd want to take her back to your Winfield Place apartment and want to make dirty movies with her. Then your ex-best friend would come in in the middle of the night and bludgeon you to death with a camera tripod.

[Iangould]

What's you favorite place to go to?

What's the place that amazes you by its sheer strangeness?

Show them to her.

[dingo]

What's the place that amazes you by its sheer strangeness?

Show them to her.

Without taking any clothes off.

[hoffmandu]

This is masterful. A beginners Swing Dance class. Usually, places like that have one night devoted to the unexperienced. I know, I know, Hoffmandu Swings? Barely, but my GF loves it regardless. Plus, it's usually free.

[HomerJay]

I'm going to get this one out of the way:
SEX!
Thank you for diffusing future posts in this thread by TinMan or StoneGold.

[Evil Sneak]

Since you're from Cincinnati, I'll give you some Queen City things.

Take her down to Fountain Square and go ice skating. It's fun even if both of you can't ice skate. If you do it on a Sunday you can follow that up with appetizers and a bottle of wine at Jean Ro's Bistro (around the corner from the Square). It's half price bottles of wine. Heck I might be there at the bar.

While it's still winter, take her to the Zoo for the Festival of Lights. Quite possibly the most romantic thing to do in Cincy.

If she likes sushi, take her to Aqua (on Delta Ave in Mt. Lookout) on Wednesday (it's half price sushi). You'll get the best sushi in town at half the price.

The Newport Aquarium (Newport on the Levee) is a fun place to go, you can even pet the sharks (no, really you can).

The CAC (Contemporary Art Center) downtown is a cool spot to see some great works of art.

The Know Theatre on Sycamore has put on some great shows (especially for a local theatre group).

Every Final Friday of the month, the art galleries downtown in Over The Rhine (relax it's safe) have a free gallery walk, where you can check out (and bid on if you like) peices from local artists. Hell you can find out what next month's theme is and submit a peice yourself.

Every third Saturday of the month you can journey over to Clique Lounge in Covington and listen to some great music being played by the city's coolest DJ (DJ milkshake, and I'm not saying that because I'm that DJ, it's just true).

The Art Mueseum in Eden Park has a monthly party called One World Wednesday. In it they highlight one city of the world and bring art, food, music culture to celebrate that city. In the past they've done Bangladesh, London and Amsterdam. And they have Barcelona, Kyoto, Sydney and Caracas on the upcoming schedule.

Resturants to try:

Vinyl (world fusion) Downtown - Sunday Brunch is the tops.
Cumin (Indian) in Hyde Park - Best Indian in the city
China Gourmet (Chinese) in Hyde Park - Maybe a bit pricey but best Asian.
Nicola's (Italian) Downtown - Best Italian and 2nd best desserts.
Greenup Cafe - Newport B - est desserts.
Blanco (Burrito's) Clifton - Think Chipotle but actually good.
Cafe de Paris (downtown & Hyde Park) - lightest croissants ever.

Restuarants to avoid:
Beluga (Asian/European Fusion) Hyde Park - high price for mediocre food.
Precint, Ruby's, Waterfront, - Jeff Ruby is a prick don't give him money.
King Wok - Clifton - Worst Asian food.

[HomerJay]

Isn't the Hustler store in Cincy?

[Evil Sneak]

Yep, downtown on Elm street.

It's actually pretty nice, not like you'd expect.

[Typo Lad]

Listen to Evil Sneak. He's forgotten more about women* than most of us will ever know.



*Generally thier names the next day

[Gargus]

Wow alot of good suggestions, thanks.

Im putting them all in a word file so I can keep track of them hehe.

I want to do nice stuff but I dont have to really, she is the kind who likes the thought and not so much what I do. Hell last night we sat in ihop for 2 hours, then went to starbucks and talked till we got booted out when they closed, then sat in her car and talked another 2 hours till midnight in the parking lot. Last week we went with her friend and her boyfriend to this crappy bar and stayed till 3am when the lights came on and a guy came over to tell us we had to leave hehe.

Keep em coming though.

Thanks evil sneak you got some good suggestions. Were actually from NKY but just bit south of cinci and I dont know much of whats around there. Some of those Im going to file away for the future, as of right now we both agreed we would be friends till she gets a problem taken care of so I dont want to do to much, just have fun right now.

[Shellhead]

Last week we went with her friend and her boyfriend to this crappy bar <snip> as of right now we both agreed we would be friends till she gets a problem taken care of so I dont want to do to much, just have fun right now.

The just-friends-for-now thing makes sense, but try to protect your feelings because this sounds like a shaky situation. I'm guessing the fundamental problem is that she lives with the boyfriend and can't afford to move out on her own. But that makes for a poor transition if the plan is to wait until the circumstances work out where she can move in with you. If that's the plan, then you definitely need to get to know her well as a friend right now. Try not to get into any mindless fistfights with her current boyfriend once he realizes what's going on.

[Slam_Bradley]

While it's still winter, take her to the Zoo for the Festival of Lights. Quite possibly the most romantic thing to do in Cincy.



I don't know from Cincinnati, but most zoos are very cool in the winter. A lot of different animals are more active in the winter (penguins, polar bears, certain big cats).

I always had good luck with playgrounds. Swings, merry-go-rounds, etc are still fun when you're an adult.

[Mac Danny]

Listen to Evil Sneak. He's forgotten more about women* than most of us will ever know.



*Generally thier names the next day


I second this suggestion. Sneak is a master of the opposite sex. Not in that sleazy way, but in the "I'm actually listening to you while thinking about taking your clothes off" way

Learn at the feet of the master. If anyone knows Cincy night spots it's their #1 son. He may not know jack about Fantasy football, but he scores with the ladies.

Next, Dress like you care. I know it is easy when you are friends and you are comfortable to be a little more unkept than usual. trust me when I say, leave the yoyodyne t-shirt at home and dress like a gentleman. I am not saying you should suit up, but look presentable, like you are going to meet her parents.

Something else Sneak taught me. Dance. Even if you are no good at it and have no game, get on that floor. This speaks to my next point. Don't be shy, just go on out and shake your groove thing if the situation presents itself.

Finally, nothing is sexier than Confidence. If you feel like James Bond, you will be James Bond. This is how a-holes get all the tail. They have confidence and confidence is 90% of it.

Don't forget to open the door for her. It's old school but the ladies dig it.

Good hunting!

[fly on the wall]

Maybe she likes to catch frisbees in her mouth like Border Collies. You could both get lots of healthful exercise if this was so.

[darkkeeperjr]

Take her to a comedy club.Get her a few drinks and then feel her up between acts.

[Mac Danny]

Maybe she likes to catch frisbees in her mouth like Border Collies. You could both get lots of healthful exercise if this was so.

See! Fly knows how to treat Bitches!

[Gargus]

The just-friends-for-now thing makes sense, but try to protect your feelings because this sounds like a shaky situation. I'm guessing the fundamental problem is that she lives with the boyfriend and can't afford to move out on her own. But that makes for a poor transition if the plan is to wait until the circumstances work out where she can move in with you. If that's the plan, then you definitely need to get to know her well as a friend right now. Try not to get into any mindless fistfights with her current boyfriend once he realizes what's going on.

Oh yeah we somehow got in a conversation about that and we discussed it and agreed we have to wait. She doesnt live with anyone but at the end of a very long divorce thats been going on awhile. All we had done is just hug and we leave it at that. Personally I think she is having fun with it, being just a little flirty.

We had actually known eachother for little over a year before this recently came into motion a month ago and we spoke sometimes but never did anything together or anything.

All started with me getting her a present for christmas early because I didnt like seeing her so unhappy and wanted to cheer her up. From my understanding from other people I hit the nail on the head with it.

[Gargus]

The just-friends-for-now thing makes sense, but try to protect your feelings because this sounds like a shaky situation. I'm guessing the fundamental problem is that she lives with the boyfriend and can't afford to move out on her own. But that makes for a poor transition if the plan is to wait until the circumstances work out where she can move in with you. If that's the plan, then you definitely need to get to know her well as a friend right now. Try not to get into any mindless fistfights with her current boyfriend once he realizes what's going on.

Oh yeah we somehow got in a conversation about that and we discussed it and agreed we have to wait. She doesnt live with anyone but at the end of a very long divorce thats been going on awhile. All we had done is just hug and we leave it at that. Personally I think she is having fun with it, being just a little flirty.

We had actually known eachother for little over a year before this recently came into motion a month ago and we spoke sometimes but never did anything together or anything.

All started with me getting her a present for christmas early because I didnt like seeing her so unhappy and wanted to cheer her up. From my understanding from other people I hit the nail on the head with it.

[Evil Sneak]

Mac Danny and Typo flatter me, I'm just a guy who learned his lessons the hard way, and I hate seeing people go through what I went through.

The best advice that was given was Typo "saying be yourself". If she likes you for who you are, great, you've got a winner. If she doesn't, great, you didn't get stuck with a loser.


I don't know from Cincinnati, but most zoos are very cool in the winter. A lot of different animals are more active in the winter (penguins, polar bears, certain big cats).

I always had good luck with playgrounds. Swings, merry-go-rounds, etc are still fun when you're an adult.

Oh I agree, and Cincinnati has one of the finest Zoological gardens in the country. It's collection of big cats (BENGALS [now you know where it comes from]) is unparalleled. And you have the added bonus of having millions of tiny lights above to make it even more cuddle-worthy.

http://www.artcom.com/Museums/vs/af/529.jpg

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It's a sure-fire winner.

Gargus: I understand taking things slow, but like shellhead said, guard your feelings. Don't fall into the "Just Friends Trap". It's gravitational pull is nearly impossible to escape.

Also taking things slow DOESN'T mean absolutely a lack of intimacy. If she wants to be with you, she should show it. That doesn't mean hopping into the sack with you, but there should be a difference in the way she treats you and the way she treats other people.

Don't be the one who's always giving and never receiving. It's unhealthy for her and disasterous for you. Asking for something you want isn't being a bad guy or being rude or disrespectful, it's being assertive. There's nothing wrong iwith that, in fact most women find it very attractive.

Where in NKY are you? I'm pretty familiar with the greater Cincinnati area, I could probably steer you to some cool spots that won't break your bank.

[i_mmmchocolate]

Why don't you just ask what she might be interested in doing and plan a date together?

[Stellar]

Why don't you just ask what she might be interested in doing and plan a date together?

Although she beat me to it, it's better that you heard it from a woman.

[Fabian]

Why don't you just ask what she might be interested in doing and plan a date together?

Did anyone hear something?


I think I might be in the same boat as you but my lady ended up buying me concert tickets. Cronin's woman did the same thing. The solution is simple and start dating Cronin's girl.

[Spike-X]

Why the hell you wanna be doing anything with my girlfriend?

I'LL KICK YOUR ASS!!!

[Valmore]

I think I might be in the same boat as you but my lady ended up buying me concert tickets. Cronin's woman did the same thing. The solution is simple and start dating Cronin's girl.

Except Cronin's a robot, which means he's dating a robot. I can't see that being too exciting.

[Stellar]

Hey, Dr. Val More. Where the hell were you when this guy needed you, eh?

[dingo]

Except Cronin's a robot, which means he's dating a robot. I can't see that being too exciting.

Robot's are always up for a little I/O

[Valmore]

Hey, Dr. Val More. Where the hell were you when this guy needed you, eh?

Hey, I've got a post right on page one, bunky!