Serious Question related to love

[TheTen-EyedMan]

Okay, this is a question that was posed to me by a former work colleague yesterday.

Imagine if you will that you find your soul mate...for want of a better word. You know from the get go that you love each other. But you're told that you can only have 10 years together before they have to leave you.

Do you still hook up knowing that excruciating pain of losing someone you love is waiting for you at the end of the ten years?

[thomas_catbiscuit]

damn right pal as ten years of being togehter can create many memories that will live on after them 10 years...

[TinMan]

It's a rather ridiculous question because no one knows the future... but considering the longest relationship I've ever had was 4 months, ten years sounds like a lifetime. I would take it and cherish it forever... especially if I got kids out of the deal, at least I would have them afterward.

[Motormouse]

"T'is better to have loved and lost, than to have never loved at all"

[Agent Helix]

It's a hypothetical question, TinMan, it doesn't have to be realistic.

To answer it: Yes, of course. No question of that. Better to have loved and lost, and all that.

Edit: Damn you, Motormouse. DAMN YOU.

[Winslow]

The hypothetical is kind of wierd - is there a terminal illness involved?

But no doubt - go for it.

[gary bolt]

If I could think of some inane song lyrics to cut-and-paste this would be the place to do it.

[TinMan]

It's a hypothetical question, TinMan, it doesn't have to be realistic.

To answer it: Yes, of course. No question of that. Better to have loved and lost, and all that.

Edit: Damn you, Motormouse. DAMN YOU.

The hypothetical is kind of wierd - is there a terminal illness involved?

But no doubt - go for it.

Winslow's statement is kinda why I said that Helix, hypothetical or not, it's an improbability... so it's more contrived. But I still answered it.

[Mac Danny]

Okay, this is a question that was posed to me by a former work colleague yesterday.

Imagine if you will that you find your soul mate...for want of a better word. You know from the get go that you love each other. But you're told that you can only have 10 years together before they have to leave you.

Do you still hook up knowing that excruciating pain of losing someone you love is waiting for you at the end of the ten years?

In a heartbeat. No question about it I would Absolutly hit that for 10 years. Then spend the rest of my year getting Sympathy sex from women who are eager to be #2.

[Typo Lad]

For all I know I'll be dead next year. Doesn't make Suzannah any less my soulmate.

We never know how long we have, so yeah, I'd take it.

[Agent Helix]

Winslow's statement is kinda why I said that Helix, hypothetical or not, it's an improbability... so it's more contrived. But I still answered it.

Loads of hypothetical questions are based around improbability. That's why they're hypothetical questions, and not factual questions.

[Joe Rice]

Hell yeah. Who knows if I'll last ten years anyway? Also, after ten years I get to do other girls!

[TinMan]

Loads of hypothetical questions are based around improbability. That's why they're hypothetical questions, and not factual questions.

Yes, but most hypotheticals are based upon things that you could actually know. As Winslow exampled, one of the only ways you would know for sure you would only get ten years out of the relationship is because of an illness.

Besides, I said that just to be a horses ass for the most part, I understand the point of a hypothetical question.

[Joe Rice]

Yes, but most hypotheticals are based upon things that you could actually know. As Winslow exampled, one of the only ways you would know for sure you would only get ten years out of the relationship is because of an illness.

Besides, I said that just to be a horses ass for the most part, I understand the point of a hypothetical question.

Congrats! Success!

[TinMan]

Congrats! Success!

I'm an overachiever, what can I say? I'm so damn good people can't even figure out that I'm being ass on purpose!

[Stellar]

"T'is better to have loved and lost, than to have never loved at all"

I couldn't have said it better myself.

[Agent Helix]

I just figured it came naturally, I guess.

[TinMan]

I just figured it came naturally, I guess.

It does... but some of it is intentional just to see who takes the bait.

[Joe Rice]

It does... but some of it is intentional just to see who takes the bait.

Ah. "Trolling."

[Agent Helix]

That's some weak-ass trolling.

"I'm going to pretend I don't understand something so someone politely corrects me! HAW HAW!"

[twilight]

Well if this person is my soul mate then I'm sure the guaranteed ten years will be phenomenal.

I think it's worth it.

[TheTen-EyedMan]

Thank you for some very insightful comments.

It's actually a fictional story I'm writing where the "hero"/protagonist finds the love of his life but is told that he is only allowed to have 10 years with her due to a very special circumstance.

[TinMan]

Ah. "Trolling."

That's some weak-ass trolling.

"I'm going to pretend I don't understand something so someone politely corrects me! HAW HAW!"

Nah, it's more along the lines of the assumption thread: people always assume shit about me based upon my personallity, so I may as well help them along cause they refuse to get to know me any other way.

Examples:

1) Agent Helix
2) Joe Rice

[TheTen-EyedMan]

Nah, it's more along the lines of the assumption thread: people always assume shit about me based upon my personallity, so I may as well help them along cause they refuse to get to know me any other way.

Examples:

1) Agent Helix
2) Joe Rice

But oz never did give nothing to the tin man
That he didnt, didnt already have
And cause never was the reason for the evening
Or the tropic of sir galahad.


*Hugs TinMan*

[Agent Helix]

I assume you're not worth talking to anymore.

[TheTen-EyedMan]

I just think he's tin skinned.

[HomerJay]

My wife and I have been a couple for a little over 10 years and the memories we've shared and happiness we've given one another makes it all worthwhile even if one of us were to go. I've told my wife that she has made all my dreams come true and it's the truth.
When it comes to love, I'd rather have dizzying highs & crushing lows, instead of just creamy middles.

[Solaris]

Thank you for some very insightful comments.

It's actually a fictional story I'm writing where the "hero"/protagonist finds the love of his life but is told that he is only allowed to have 10 years with her due to a very special circumstance.


Happens in real life all the time. Blair recently posted about having just lost a friend to cancer, and that her husband had married her knowing she had it, and that it might not give them much time together.

Meg's (my daughter) current boyfriend has leukemia, and she knew that going into the relationship. I'm beginning to think they are "soulmates" or whatever you want to call it---they get along so well, and are so well matched. He just found out that his remission is failing, and offered her an "out" on the relationship. She turned him down cold on that. She loves him, "in sickness or in health," as she said.

When you write about this, you've got a big subject, with a lot of tragedy and love involved... and it's gonna strike a chord with a lot of people who have really faced this in life. I think that gives you the obligation to handle it the very best way you can, as a writer and a person. Good luck!

[TheTen-EyedMan]

Ask Pol, Jag and Ian about Belinda Emmet and Rove McManus.

Rove McManus is a television host in Australia. He married Belinda Emmet when she was on the white flag with metastatic cancer. He did that out of love. Nothing more.

That's the sort of thing I'm trying to write about. Love, selfless, unending love.

[Merey]

Thank you for some very insightful comments.

It's actually a fictional story I'm writing where the "hero"/protagonist finds the love of his life but is told that he is only allowed to have 10 years with her due to a very special circumstance.


The Time Traveler's Wife is sort along those lines. It's a super sap-arific, but if you're a hopeless romantic and enjoy quasi-scifi then it's an awesome page-turner read.


To answer your question, I would also probably go for it but after a lot of wrenching doubt and deliberation.

[Dreadstar]

I have hooked up with my soul mate.

3 times.

All 3 times fated to end. All of the time together might have added up to a single year.

10 years?

In a motherfucking heartbeat.

[howyadoin]

I have hooked up with my soul mate.

3 times.

All 3 times fated to end. All of the time together might have added up to a single year.

10 years?

In a motherfucking heartbeat.What Dread said.

Minus the "3 times" part, sadly.