What is dating worth...??

[Ta2grrl]

A question...

I have dated many...well...MANY people in my 28 years...ie...I ain't no virgin...

However...

I have dated several guys of late that have been with maybe half a dozen women...some by choice have dated only a handful of women...some have not chosen this path willingly...

Does anyone find that this discrepancy in number of partners can create issues further along in the relationship...??

For example...regret that they didn't have more sex before settling down...wishing they still could sow their wild oats...etc etc...

XXX

[Nikita]

A question...

I have dated many...well...MANY people in my 28 years...ie...I ain't no virgin...

However...

I have dated several guys of late that have been with maybe half a dozen women...some by choice have dated only a handful of women...some have not chosen this path willingly...

Does anyone find that this discrepancy in number of partners can create issues further along in the relationship...??

For example...regret that they didn't have more sex before settling down...wishing they still could sow their wild oats...etc etc...

XXX



I don't think it matters. I went a long period of time between highschool and my late twenties not dating anyone at all. I used to feel weird about it and I thought I should have more sexual partners overall. But once I did start dating again, even though I've made up for it somewhat in the past few years since the ex and I broke up, I still prefer quality over quantity. I would rather find someone who matches me in all areas, then feel like I need to rack up a ton of sexual conquests to equal a future partner who may have more then me. But I certainly don't judge someone I might date if they've had many more or less partners then me. Because I'm hoping they won't judge me for the same issue.

It just depends on the person and how comfortable they are with their sexual histories. If it bothers them eventually that you've had more partners then them, then it's their problem, not yours. Move on to someone who's more mature and secure with their sexual histories no matter how many partners they've had compared to you. Don't ever feel guilty or weird about how many people you've been with compared to someone you might date. If any guy you date makes you feel this way, dump him....immediately.

[StoneGold]

Just keep in mind: it's in the past for a reason.

[GRANT!]

Dating sucks. I hate dating. I long for the day I'm in a normal relationship where we have dull conversation about curtains or what not.

I'd kill to have the problems you have. Discrepancy in partners. That'd be nice. If it might be an issue I wouldn't bring it up. Unless I have Herpes or AIDs or something.

-Drunk Grant

[Dennis K]

I don't know what dating is worth, but freedom's worth $1.05

[mrc1214]

Does anyone find that this discrepancy in number of partners can create issues further along in the relationship...??

First i think it depends on the person attitude. I dont think it bothers some people if their partner has slept with more people than them. But for others i think it bothers them alot and it usually doea lead to problems. I find that it doesnt bother girls as much as it bothers guys. I believe that the past is the past and if you find the right person it shouldnt matter.

[FunkyGreenJerusalem]

Does anyone find that this discrepancy in number of partners can create issues further along in the relationship...??

When I was like 17/18 it did.

But then I grew up.
(and got laid a few times so that there shouldn't be too much of a difference between me and a partner).