Is One Greeting Enough To Start a Friendship Over?

[JerrBear81]

Have you ever made friends with someone just because you said hi to them?

[west3man]

Have you ever made friends with someone just because you said hi to them?
Kinda tough question to get much traction on.

"Hi" doensn't make a friendship, but it can lead to one, sure. *shrugs*

[Lubichev]

Once, when I said, "You wanna get high?"
She seemed to really like me from then on.

[JerrBear81]

Once, when I said, "You wanna get high?"
She seemed to really like me from then on.

I'm reminded of "Up In Smoke".

[Lubichev]

"The future of rock-n-roll. Bruce Springsteen is fucking it all up. Fuuuuture!!"

[JerrBear81]

Kinda tough question to get much traction on.

"Hi" doensn't make a friendship, but it can lead to one, sure. *shrugs*

Ok, hypothetically speaking let's say I met this guy working at Wal-Mart. He was pulling a whole bunch of goods, we had eye contact, and said hello to each other. Could that lead to a friendship?

[SOGG]

Have you ever made friends with someone just because you said hi to them?

My girlfriend and I started on 'hi'.

[jessecuster]

"You had me at..... hello"



Ok now I am going to go throw up for quoting that....

[Michael P]

Ok, hypothetically speaking let's say I met this guy working at Wal-Mart. He was pulling a whole bunch of goods, we had eye contact, and said hello to each other. Could that lead to a friendship?
On its own? Not really. But I suppose if you go to Wal-Mart often, and see him every time, and say hello every time, you might eventually strike up a conversation that would lead to a friendship.

This isn't a Subway girl thing, is it?

[west3man]

Ok, hypothetically speaking let's say I met this guy working at Wal-Mart. He was pulling a whole bunch of goods, we had eye contact, and said hello to each other. Could that lead to a friendship?*erases original post*

If you have a conversation? Sure. That suggests that the conversation interested you.

If you ask to exchange contact information simply based on a look? That suggests that his appearance interested you. That could still lead to friendship, of course, but one might wonder about your expectations.


I don't know your style or how gay men feel out these situations, so I'm not sure what to suggest from there.

[JerrBear81]

On its own? Not really. But I suppose if you go to Wal-Mart often, and see him every time, and say hello every time, you might eventually strike up a conversation that would lead to a friendship.

This isn't a Subway girl thing, is it?

Most likely it's not a subway thing. Though if you want I can go take a picture of him :D

[Matt Algren]

Have you ever made friends with someone just because you said hi to them?
It depends on how many days until I need to move my stuff.

[JerrBear81]

*erases original post*

If you have a conversation? Sure. That suggests that the conversation interested you.

If you ask to exchange contact information simply based on a look? That suggests that his appearance interested you. That could still lead to friendship, of course, but one might wonder about your expectations.


I don't know your style or how gay men feel out these situations, so I'm not sure what to suggest from there.

Heh. I'm just realizing that I'm really not all that great friends with the friends that I do have offline (my sister's friends first really), so I'm wondering if just making friends with people that acknowledge me is a good start to starting a new circle of friends.

Though I admit he is cute. Though, I've had plenty of friends I thought were cute where I just stayed friends with them. And damn, that brings another topic to post. Unless someone else has posted such a topic.

[west3man]

Heh. I'm just realizing that I'm really not all that great friends with the friends that I do have offline (my sister's friends first really), so I'm wondering if just making friends with people that acknowledge me is a good start to starting a new circle of friends.Acknowledgement?
Well, that varies from place-to-place, so I don't want to be TOO assumptive. Where I live, people acknowledge each other very regularly, but it's just in-passing. Grabbing or calling out to some guy (or girl) whose eyes met mine briefly to ask start up a conversation is probably going to be pretty awkward.

It can be tough adding new members to the friendship roster. Hell, in some ways it may be easier to step to someone for something more than friendship, as they're often likely to assume that's the intention, anyway.

I'd say that if a conversation naturally develops, then go for it. Otherwise, I'd settle for friendLY instead of friendSHIP. As Michael mentioned, multiple friendly encounters could lead to friendship.


If you're really interested in making friends, I'd suggest giving some thought to what interests you, then pursuing it in various ways. You're bound to encounter other folks who share some of your enthusiasm and who may be looking for folks to talk or hang with.

Having a convenient catalyst helps. Common interests qualify.

[hoffmandu]

Was there hot dirty sex involved? :eek:

[JerrBear81]

Acknowledgement?
Well, that varies from place-to-place, so I don't want to be TOO assumptive. Where I live, people acknowledge each other very regularly, but it's just in-passing. Grabbing or calling out to some guy (or girl) whose eyes met mine briefly to ask start up a conversation is probably going to be pretty awkward.

It can be tough adding new members to the friendship roster. Hell, in some ways it may be easier to step to someone for something more than friendship, as they're often likely to assume that's the intention, anyway.

I'd say that if a conversation naturally develops, then go for it. Otherwise, I'd settle for friendLY instead of friendSHIP. As Michael mentioned, multiple friendly encounters could lead to friendship.


If you're really interested in making friends, I'd suggest giving some thought to what interests you, then pursuing it in various ways. You're bound to encounter other folks who share some of your enthusiasm and who may be looking for folks to talk or hang with.

Having a convenient catalyst helps. Common interests qualify.

Yea. Where I live now people don't really acknowledge one another with a hello and eye contact. It's usually just a nod of the head or wave of the hand.

[Paradox]

JerrBear81 starts at the beginning:

Have you ever made friends with someone just because you said hi to them?

No, but I've had people suddenly THINK we were friends just because I said "Hi" to them. Those types are harder to get off than ticks!

[tricksterpup]

No, but I've had people suddenly THINK we were friends just because I said "Hi" to them. Those types are harder to get off than ticks!
Yes, but when you said Hi to me, the world just became all that brighter, I had meaning to live again. I felt whole and fufilled.
Or was it HEY, GET THE HELL OUT OF MY TRASH!!!
All i know was on that day there was connection. :D or was that a boot thrown to my head.

[Paradox]

tricksterpup howls at the moon:

Yes, but when you said Hi to me, the world just became all that brighter, I had meaning to live again. I felt whole and fufilled.
Or was it HEY, GET THE HELL OUT OF MY TRASH!!!
All i know was on that day there was connection. :D or was that a boot thrown to my head.

No, no, no. I was "QUIT HUMPING MY LEG!" I believe "HEY, GET THE HELL OUT OF MY TRASH!!!" was heard outside the Macquarrie manor. ;)

[Sleeper]

No, never had a friendship start with a "Hi." Then again, I don't say hello to even the people I know. I don't even know how I know the people I know now.

[berk]

Wouldn't the words "necessary but not sufficient" apply here?